Why I Am Ending My Weight Loss Journey Early

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For those of you who have been following the blog for a while, you know that I’ve been trying to lose weight now for a few months. I’ve been successful with it too…until now. This is tough to admit but I think I’m gonna call it quits on my weight loss journey. It has nothing to do with not being strong willed enough or not having enough self control to stick with it. The honest truth is that I really feel my body is telling me to stop.

I started my weight loss endeavors this pass May (so it’s been about 2 1/2 months now). In total I’ve lost 10 pounds. Let me just start off by saying that that was the slowest I’ve ever lost weight. I’ve written before how I’ve lost 40 pounds in the past when I was at my heaviest. And I was able to lose that so quickly, like it was nobody’s business. But when it came to these 10 pounds, it took forever. Let me tell you why I think that is.

In doing some research, I came across a theory that I agree with. It is called the “set point theory”. It basically states that all of us have a certain set point for our weight, a certain weight that our bodies feel is healthy for us and will fight to maintain. Just like we are all predisposed to having a certain height (thanks to our genetics) the same can be said for our weight. So if your family (like mine) tends to be on the curvier side, chances are you will too and vice versa if your family is on the thinner side. Now it is possible to still lose the weight but you may have to go to drastic measures to do so and to then maintain that weight loss.

I have been the same weight now for years. I eat healthy, workout each and every week, and my body has always been happy at this same weight.  It has always been easy to maintain. When I started my weight loss journey in May, I was 10 pounds heavier. So when I started eating less and counting calories, it didn’t feel hard at all. My body didn’t struggle with it. But now that I’ve reached my set point weight again, my body is suddenly acting as if it’s starving. I constantly feel hungry everyday. Even though I’m eating the same amount, suddenly my body is demanding that I feed it more.

I am a strong believer in listening to your body. I feel that our body’s know what’s best and will try to alert you when something’s not right. So when my body started sending me these constant hunger signals, I was conflicted. I really wanted to listen to my body but I also wanted to continue losing weight. Ultimately, I decided though that I needed to listen to my body. Our bodies don’t care whether or not we look like an Instagram model or like a certain celebrity’s bikini body. Our bodies are concerned about our health and well being. I just thought to myself too that sure, I could fight my body to lose this weight but at what cost? Developing an eating disorder? And I’m not saying that for anyone trying to lose weight, it’ll just end up in an eating disorder. No, not at all. I’m just saying for myself personally, it was so clear that my body was fighting me on losing this weight. It was going to do what was necessary to keep me at what it felt was already a healthy weight.

I have lost some more weight in the past too. But immediately my body gained it all back even though I was eating healthy and doing everything as I should have. And maybe I could’ve kept it off if I had been tracking my calories, but I’m sorry I don’t want to focus on calories for the rest of my life. I don’t want everything I do to be dictated by calories. I don’t want to constantly worry about whether or not I’m “allowed” to eat something every time I sit down for a meal. And I don’t want to have to worry about trying to maintain this “perfect” weight. Life is just worth so much more than being a certain size or weight. I want to enjoy life and time with friends and family and not stress about food. And ultimately that’s what my decision came down to. I didn’t want to allow food, dieting, and weight loss to control my life. I was meant for bigger things than that.

I hope my experience has helped you in some way. This was not easy to admit to millions of people since I know some will judge harshly. But it’s honestly what I felt was best for my body. I am going to love my body as it is, nourish it, and care for it with love. It’s done nothing but amazing things for me, including giving birth to my beautiful baby girl. Hopefully this has helped you to see that your life is worth so much more than attaining a certain body. I am all for losing weight for health reasons but when it comes to just vanity weight loss, it’s just not worth it in my opinion. I hope you give your body the love it deserves.

Weight Loss Journey Update: How I’m Eating To Lose The Weight

*Disclaimer: I just want to start off by saying that I am not a doctor. This is just my personal experience and what has worked for me. The information I share with you is what I have learned through trial and error and my own research. But of course, if you have any questions about any of this, please make sure to discuss it with your doctor first.*

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If you’ve been reading my blog for a while now, then you’ll know that in May of 2018 I decided to start my fitness journey. I wanted to update you guys because I know articles like this can help encourage and motivate others who are on a similar path.

Today is now July 1st of 2018 and I am happy to say that I am still on my fitness journey. This would be my 7th week of working out at the gym and eating portion controlled meals. I am so proud of myself though for really sticking with it this time. It’s funny how you can have so many times that you tell yourself, “This is it. I’m finally going to lose the weight!” But then you just end up quitting. Honestly you guys, I had been saying for about 6 years now that I was going to lose this weight. I would try so many different things that ended up just not working or I didn’t like it so I’d quit. So I find it so crazy that this time around I am sticking with it. I am serious about losing the weight this time and there is nothing that’s going to stop me. I am just that motivated and determined. But I feel like the reason why this way of losing weight is working is because it’s not hard to me or dreadful at all. I don’t feel starved or deprived or anything like that.

For the first month of my weight loss journey I just focused on portion control and it worked, but only during that time. After a while I noticed that my weight had plateaued. I tried to wait it out to see if it’d work itself out. But after 3 weeks of being the same weight, I decided I’d try calorie counting. I just didn’t want to be wasting my time doing something that was no longer working. And I felt like 3 weeks was long enough to wait. So I went online and tried a few different calorie calculators to see how much I should be eating for weight loss. I tried about 3 or 4 different ones. They all tend to give you a different number so I just took the average of all of them. I ended up with about 1600 calories. I think that is the perfect number for me. I still nurse my toddler 4 times a day, I tend to be moderately active, and I workout at the gym 3-4 times a week for an hour each session. I also have a good amount of muscle mass on my body. So all that needs to be taken into consideration when determining your calories. One calculator tried saying that I needed to eat just 1300 calories which I already felt was very low for me but I thought I’d give it a try. When I did, I was very hungry all day, felt light headed, exhausted, and irritable. So I knew that I needed to eat more. The crazy thing too is that before I thought all those symptoms were normal to feel when losing weight. But let me tell you, they’re not! That was a big reason why I never stuck to losing weight before: because I didn’t want to feel like that for months while trying to lose weight. So if you find yourself feeling miserable at all when trying to eat less for weight loss, try increasing your calories by a few hundred, Most likely you’re body just needs to eat a little more.

A really simple tool I’m using for calorie counting that I’m sure you heard of is the “My Fitness Pal” app. It’s free to download and so easy to use. I’m not getting paid or endorsed by them at all. This has just really helped me and I think it”ll help you as well. I have always hated counting calories. HATED! But this app is seriously so quick and easy to use. It even has a bar code scanner so if you have the package of the food you’re eating, you can just scan the bar code with your phone and it’ll upload all the nutrition information for you and then you’re done. If you tend to eat the same meals (like I do. I eat the same breakfast everyday.) you can log all the ingredients for it on your phone and then save it on the app. So next time when you’re eating that meal again, you don’t have to log each and every little thing again, you can just click on the saved “meals” button and it”ll have it all ready to go for you right there. If you’re going to a restaurant, it’ll already have the menu and calories on your phone so you can literally just click on what you ordered instead of having to log it all in yourself. I honestly love this app (especially the bar code feature 🙂 ). So even if you’re someone like me who has tried tracking your calories before but hated it, try giving this app a try. You might just like it 🙂

I also don’t restrict myself when it comes to cravings. If I really want to eat something, I’ll let myself have it. I just make sure to keep it within my calorie intake for the day. I feel it’s best to eat what you want in moderation now, than to restrict and deprive yourself for so long until you can’t take it anymore and you end up binge eating hard. Also, eating in a balanced way like this will help you in sticking to your weight loss plan long term since there are no rules as to what you can and cannot have.

And I just wanted to touch on something that was very hard for me losing weight this time around, since I know other people may be experiencing the same thing. I have lost 40 pounds in the past when I was at my heaviest but back then I was able to drop the weight so quickly. There were times where I’d lose 7 pounds in a week and it wasn’t even like I was trying to. But now I lose 1 pound a week. It was very frustrating at first to see how slow the weight was coming off. Especially since now is the time that I’m working my hardest at the gym and eating less, and yet I’m losing the weight much slower than when I was heavier and wasn’t trying nearly as hard. I had to remind myself though of how my body is going to try and hang onto these vanity pounds so it is going to take longer. I also reminded myself that progress is progress. That has basically been my motto throughout this fitness journey. Even if you are losing the weight so incredibly slow, just be happy that you’re going in the right direction. You’re still losing weight, even if it is slow, and that’s bringing you one step closer to your goal. It’s that mindset that has helped me to keep going even when I become impatient and wish that I could drop the weight faster. Before I would be so upset that my progress was so slow that I would just quit. But how is that helping the situation?  At least before you were making progress. If you quit, then you’re not getting any closer to your goals.

To sum this all up for you: track your calories (but don’t go too low), eat what you’d like but just in moderation, and keep in mind that progress is progress. I hope this article has helped you guys. I just really don’t want you to waste your time like me doing all the wrong things when you can just get it right the first time and finally reach your goals. Please give this a “like” if you enjoyed it and comment down below a weight loss hack that has worked for you. We could all use each other’s help.

 

How To Stay Motivated On Your Fitness/ Weight Loss Journey

I’ve just started on a fitness journey of my own and I can say that one of the hardest things about it can be staying motivated. In the beginning it’s real easy because you know exactly why you’re doing this, you’ve got momentum, and you just go. But after a few weeks, that all starts to wear off especially if you’re not seeing results as quickly as you’re wanting to. So you have to keep yourself motivated if you’re going to stick to your fitness journey long enough to get the results you want.  As someone who has been in need of motivation from time to time, I have some tips I’d like to share with you. They’ve helped me to keep going strong and I’m hoping they’ll do the same for you. So let’s get right into it:

  1. Get yourself some cute fitness gear. This is probably my #1 tip. I don’t know about you but when I look good, I feel good. It gives me more confidence and makes me just want to kill it at the gym. It also motivates me to even want to go to the gym in the first place. I’ll just feel so cute that I just have to show myself off…lol. But you know what I mean, I’m not going to look this cute and have no one see me.
  2. Reward yourself throughout your fitness journey. I think it’s nice to give yourself little gifts every couple of weeks or just once a month for reaching your fitness goals. It gives you some extra incentive to push through and continue working out even if you’re not yet seeing the results you were hoping for.
  3. Buy some beauty products that you only allow yourself to use at the gym. I use some good smelling soaps and lotions for my post workout shower but again, I tell myself that I can only use those at the gym. So if I’d really like to use them, I have to go workout. Just keep in mind too that when I talk about buying all these things, it doesn’t have to be expensive. I am not rich by any means so all of these things (fitness gear/ clothes, soaps and lotions) are very affordable. There are many stores that can sell all these things at very affordable prices. I tend to just buy a few things at a time anyways.
  4. Save your favorite songs for working out. I try not to listen to music during the day and save it for when I workout in the evening so that it gives me something to look forward to. So just like with the last point, if I want to listen to my music, I have to go workout in order to do so.
  5. Look up some before and after transformations online. On days when I just don’t feel like going to the gym or am already feeling tired, I look up weight loss transformations. I love to see just what a huge difference people can make in their appearance in just 12 weeks or so and it reminds me that if I just stick with it, I will soon have my own transformation. 12 weeks is really not a long time either to see such a drastic change.
  6. Remind yourself of why you’re doing this. This kind of goes along with the last point, but you need to remind yourself why you embarked on this weight loss or fitness journey in the first place. For me, I was tired of feeling so self conscious of the way I looked, not feeling good in the clothes I wanted to wear, and acting like everything was OK when it really was not. I’ll go more into my reasons in a later post. But sometimes when you’re just focused on the moment and thinking of how much you really don’t want to workout, you need to stop and think of what it’ll mean for you in the long term.
  7. Keep in mind how great you’ll feel afterwards. I love the feeling you get after you’ve just kicked butt at the gym and gave it you’re all. You end up feeling so good and confident about yourself. I love knowing that I’m actually working towards my goals and not just sitting at home feeling sorry for myself. I know that with each day I go out there and give it my all, I’m making progress towards my goals and that is very empowering.

These are a few of the tips that I’ve been using to help me keep going on my fitness journey. I hope they’ll help you too. Please let me know in the comments below if you found any of these especially helpful and please let me know what things you do to stay motivated. We could all use each others help 😉