Goals You Can Accomplish Right From Home (July 2020)

Even though we are in quarantine at the moment, there are still some goals I’d like to work on. I’d like to come out of this with a better and more improved version of myself. I want to be proud of the way I used my time at home. Every month I like to make goals for myself so I know what my focus should be for the upcoming weeks. So I wanted to share with you guys what I’ll be working on for this next month in hopes that it’ll maybe help give you all some ideas. These are all things that can be done at home too so we can be safe and still accomplish our goals.

  1. One of my first goals I want to work on is learning how to style my hair in a way that I love. I’ve done straight hair, wavy, natural, but none of them are what I’m wanting. I’ve always used hot tools sparingly to avoid heat damage, but it’s to the point that I think it just may be necessary to start using them daily, at least for touch ups. I’m just tired of having frizzy or flat hair that I feel self conscious of.
  2. I am also working on losing my next 20 pounds. For those who don’t know, I just recently lost 20 pounds this passed April and now I am working on losing some more. This time around I’m going about it by eating clean and of course with the right portions too. I just felt that with calorie counting (which is how I previously lost my weight) it wasn’t teaching me how to eat healthy. You could eat 1500 calories of just chocolate and still lose weight but that’s not setting you up with healthy habits. So I really wanted to take the time to learn how to eat in a healthy way that’ll help me to maintain my weight loss . It would be terrible if I were to gain it all back, especially considering how much time and effort I have to put in just to lose it so learning healthy habits is really important to me.
  3. My next goal is daily walks in the morning. Last month I went back to doing my Pilates (which I absolutely love) but now I’m just in the mood for walking. It doesn’t really matter what I end up doing, my main goal is just to have daily movement. It feels so good and it’s good for you too.
  4. I also want to try and make it a habit of doing an arts and crafts activity with my little toddler everyday. Since she’s not able to spend time with her friends right now, I’m trying to fill that void by spending even more time with her one on one. I’ve been enjoying trying different Pinterest projects with her. They help us spend time together and they help her to be creative as well. I like to use it as our little home school time. I often run out of ideas so if you’re like me and need some help in that department, Pinterest is where it’s at.
  5. Next I want to get back into a regular cleaning routine so that our house is close to spotless a majority of the time. Once quarantine continued on past the one month mark, I started to get burnt out, sad, and tired so I didn’t have my normal motivation and energy that usually helps me to stay on top of things. Now that I’ve accepted our current situation and am working with it, I’m starting to get on top of cleaning once again. Clothes are being hung up soon after they are washed, dishes are getting done on the daily, I’m basically back baby. So for this next month, I just want to keep that momentum going and continue to tackle all of the daily chores. When the house is clean, then I am happy (and so is the hubby😄) so I want to maintain that in July.
  6. I mentioned this one in a previous post, but I want to work on reading regularly. Ideally this would be something that I would do everyday. I struggle with this simply because there is so much I like to get done during my free time (and sometimes need to get done) that reading often gets put on last on the list. But I want to at least start with 10 or 15 minute sessions just to get me into the habit (and into the book) and then we can increase our time from there.

These are my goals for July. This month’s list is on the shorter side but I guess it’s because there is only so much I can do while in quarantine or I already accomplished my other goals. I hope this list was able to help you in someway and that you enjoyed getting some insight into what I’ll be doing during these next few weeks. Let me know what else you would like to see me write about. I want to tailor my site to what you all are interested in. Are there any goals you have for this coming month? I’d love to hear from you.

Till next time,

Paula🌺

My Morning Routine For A Productive Day (Quarantine Edition)

Quarantine is rough. Trust me I know it well and I know a lot of you have been feeling it too. I try to stay positive by controlling what I can and making the most of things. My number one way of doing this is starting my morning right with a good routine. If I get my day started on the right foot, it’ll (usually) keep me going for the rest of the day. But if I quickly go to the TV after waking, then it’s so hard for me to get myself motivated to do anything! It’s OK to have some lazy days, especially during this quarantine. But for days where you want to be more productive and get things done, this is the routine that helps me with that.

Wake Up Sleepy Head

First things first, we wake up that beautiful head of yours. My husband has been able to stay home longer in the mornings before he has to go to work. So he’ll usually wake up first along with my daughter while I sleep in a few minutes more (Nice!😉). So right now I’d say I wake up between 6:30-7am. That’s sleeping in for us given that the first few years of my daughter’s life, she would routinely wake us up at about 5am most days😳. So I’ll take any bit of extra sleep I can get. My daughter will actually wake me up most days with a yogurt pouch in her hand, asking if I can open it for her. 😂Some things never change. So I open that yogurt, brush my teeth, and help my daughter freshen up from the night before. Then we head downstairs with my husband.

He’s usually watching the news or making himself some coffee at this point. We spend the time that we can with him in the morning before he has to head out for work; which usually is about half an hour. And then he’s off. At this point my daughter and I get on with our routine together.

Work It Girl 😉

Now this is the part that really gets me going…my morning workout! I’ve been doing Pilates videos from Youtube; more specifically I do Blogilates. I’ve been doing her 28 day summer challenge (I’m into my third week now) and I have been loving it! I used to do her videos for years before I had my girl but I just decided to put it on pause and do other types of exercise. I forgot just how much I love Pilates! Especially with the Blogilates videos (by Cassey Ho); she just has such a good and upbeat energy. She really does help to turn my mood around.

I’ve been seeing such great results with doing her workouts and I’m so excited about it. I plan on sharing it all in a separate post where I recap my experience with her 28 day challenge. I just love how graceful and low impact Pilates is but at the same time it’s very effective. You will see a change in your body for sure and there’s just always ways you can make the moves even more challenging but I digress. The workouts I’ve been doing are half an hour long (but that also includes the warm up and stretching). I always feel so good after I finish it and I just really feel accomplished. It’s not easy working out 6 days for a week; it’s something I’ve actually never done before. So it just makes me so proud of myself to see that I’m really accomplishing this goal and in fact am almost done with it. It really sets the right tone for my day and it makes me want to cross more things off my list. As a side note, my daughter often times will want to exercise with me so she’ll imitate the moves right alongside. So it can help encourage your kids to get moving too which always makes us feel good as parents.

What Time Is It? Breakfast Time!🥓

After my workout and getting some movement into my day, your girl gets hungry. I first put some cartoons on for my toddler. She gets a certain amount of screen time each day and it’s usually done in the morning. She can choose to either play games on the phone or laptop, watch a movie, or cartoons on TV. I will admit that I’ve been allowing her to watch a little more during this quarantine. I don’t like that but I’m allowing it right now because this time has been hard enough and we often run out of things to do or just get bored doing the same things. I’m not saying this to defend or explain myself, I don’t feel a need to. But I did want to share that truth because I want other moms to know that you’re not alone in doing the same thing (if in fact you are). We can be so hard on ourselves as parents (I know I’m usually brutal on myself which is something I’m working on) so don’t feel bad if you are allowing a little more screen time. This is a difficult time and if a little more TV can help, then I think it’s worth using.

So I’ll sit with my daughter for a bit while we watch cartoons together. Afterwards, I’ll head to the kitchen to make myself some breakfast. (Just so you know, my daughter always tells me she’s not hungry at this point. Keep in mind that she did have her yogurt first thing in the morning. I always ask if she wants me to make her something and she always says no at this time.) I have to be honest with you guys, this is my favorite part of the day. I love to eat my meals slow and relaxed so I can fully taste it and enjoy the meal. So after I’ve made my delicious breakfast (which a lot of times is eggs, toast, avocado, and tea on the side with a bite of chocolate.) I sit on the table while the sunshine beams down on me and warms my soul. I put on the latest Youtube Video from one of my favorites. I usually only watch one or two and then I like to either journal or pray while the sun shines through. (I love sun light, can you tell?) It’ll just be things I’m concerned about, whatever’s on my mind, or what I’m especially grateful for. I love this time because it helps me reset and regroup my thoughts and it really helps me feel recharged for the day. But after this nice relaxing breakfast, it’s time to do my makeup.

There She Glows✨

I then head upstairs back to our room where I get ready for the day. I’ll do my makeup routine which I usually like to take my time with, it’s almost therapeutic for me. And especially with us just staying home, why rush? So I like to take it easy, I’ll prep my face, put on my diffuser on with essential oils and at this time I’ll either pray some more, listen to an article on my phone, watch another Youtube video or put some music on. It really all depends on what I feel I’m needing at the moment.

After doing my makeup, I’ll put my outfit on. I like to have fun with fashion, even if we are just staying home so I always like to put something cute on. If we go out for groceries or a walk, I might dress up a bit more just because there will be people. If I’m just staying home, it’ll be something more casual. I’ve been really loving to accessorize lately too. I feel like it just really levels up any outfit. I’ll put a headband, headscarf, or some hair clips. I’ll always have earrings on (my default are hoops) and then a choker necklace for sure. To me, fashion is an art form and it just makes me so happy when my outfit coordinates so well. I of course then go on to take a picture for Instagram just so I can document it.

So there you have it. My morning routine during quarantine. I feel like having a good morning can really help start your day off right and then hopefully that trickles down towards the rest of your day. Of course there are things that happen throughout the day that are out of your control but it can help to reign in the things we can so that we can hopefully guide our day into the direction we want it to go. And a big part of that for me is starting my morning off right with a good routine. I hope this article was able to help you guys in someway. What does your morning routine look like right now? Maybe I can learn a thing or two from you guys as well. Is there anything from this article that you’ll be incorporating into your routine? I’d love to hear from you. Let me know🌼

Till next time,

Paula🦋

Why The Terrible Two’s Really Aren’t So Terrible At All

Before I had my daughter, I was terrified of when she would turn 2. I would hear from everyone how kids are so crazy, throw so many tantrums and scream and fuss when they’re at that age. I was never worried about the newborn stage, the self sacrifice of being a parent, or anything like that. But I was anxious of my toddler throwing a full blown, uncontrollable fit at target that would turn everyone’s heads and that I wouldn’t be able to stop. But let me tell you why the “terrible two’s” is all one big fat lie. Toddlers don’t have to be crazy wild childs at all and I’ll tell you how you can prevent all of that from happening.

First let’s talk about when is the right time to tell your kids “no”. I would see on online forums that some moms would ask when’s the right time to say no to their kids. Now, that’s something I have never understood. So many parents would act like you can’t tell a baby no. But why? If my baby did something wrong or that wasn’t nice (say for example hitting someone) I would tell her “no, that’s not nice.” And very soon she understood that that was not acceptable behavior. I don’t know why someone would delay saying no to their child. A lot of people on that forum said that you could start saying no once your child was close to two years old. Then they would wonder why their child started acting out around that same time. But imagine getting everything you want, no one ever refusing any demands you made for 2 full years and after getting that special treatment for so long, you start getting told “no” and for so many things. I think that would make anyone frustrated, so just imagine how a toddler, who is still learning how to express their emotions, would react and feel. So my first tip is to not be afraid to tell your kids no, even when they are babies. I honestly don’t understand why someone wouldn’t want to tell their kids that a certain behavior is wrong and not OK to do. I don’t feel that that’s a mean thing to do at all. And your kids will understand what no means very soon. They are so much smarter than we even know.

My next tip would be to stick to your word. If you tell your child that if they aren’t listening then you would take a certain thing away from them, then you need to stick with that (even if it does make things more difficult for you). They need to know that when you say something, you mean it. If you don’t stick with your word, your kids won’t take what you say seriously. They’ll know that they can just negotiate their way out of things and that there’s no real consequences for their actions. And that’s just not right. That’s not the way the world works.

I was actually at my daughters gymnastics class yesterday when she had thrown a toy where it didn’t belong and with a little attitude too. I told her that she needed to pick it up and put it back where it belonged. At first she just looked at me and tried walking away. So I told her one more time that she needs to put it back where it goes or we were going to leave right then and there. So she quickly picked it up and put it away. Mind you, she’s only 2.5 years old. But she knows by now that when mom says something, she means it. That’s when one of the other moms there said “wow my son would’ve never listened to me. He would’ve just ignored me.” But that’s not right and that little boy needs to learn that that is not OK.

A lot of time, sticking with what you say can be more work for you. For example if my daughter chose not to listen at gymnastics, we would’ve had to leave. Now, I enjoy my time over there and I personally would not have wanted to leave. My daughter probably would’ve cried very loudly as we left, directing everyone’s attention to us. And no, I would not have wanted any of that. But I know that a little work now will pay off so much in the near future. You will have such a well behaved and respectful child who listens to you if you just stick to what you say. Because I put in that work when my daughter was younger, she listens so well now as a toddler.

I know of 4 year olds who still throw tantrums but when you look at the discipline that child gets, you’ll see that it’s inconsistent and they often get away with everything. Most of the time there is no discipline for that child. I’m tired of people saying that 3 year olds are worse than 2 year olds and then other people saying, ‘you think 3 is bad, just wait till they turn 4’. It’s all so ridiculous to me. I honestly believe it all boils down to the parenting: is that child getting disciplined and corrected for his wrong behavior? Are the parents talking to him and letting him know why that’s not acceptable? If not, then please don’t blame the child’s age. It really ruins it for those who have never had kids of their own. I know some people who are seriously not having kids because their scared of the terrible 2’s. If only they knew it was all a myth! I try telling them it’s not true, but there’s just so much fear focused around that age that they don’t believe me.

I hope these tips were able to help you. This is not to judge anyone’s parenting. This article is more so for parents who haven’t entered into this stage yet and are fearful over it. I want you to know that there is nothing to be worried about. I’d say, yes as a 2 year old kid will want to be more independent and you can let them do things on their own when you’re able to. Sometimes it’s just not practical or there may not be enough time. It’s OK to say no when you need to. At first your kids may get upset and cry a bit because they wanted to do it. But you can simply explain that sometimes they can do it but sometimes mama needs to do it. It should never escalate to a full blown tantrum though. And soon enough they’ll be more calm when you tell them that you need to do it this time.

(And just to clarify, when I say discipline, I do not mean beating your child. I don’t know why but some people think they mean the same thing when they absolutely do not. The majority of the time, discipline for me means taking away something my daughter would want, like her cartoons or I’ll send her to her room for literally 2 minutes so she can calm down. But I’ll always give her a warning before I take anything away and then I always explain to her afterwards why.)

Let me know what you guys thought of this article. And how do you feel? Can the “terrible 2’s” be avoided or is it just inevitable for every child? I’d love to hear from you.

Till next time,

Paula