The Pros And Cons Of Living In California (Raw And Real)

Moving to California seems to equate success in most people eyes. That’s the way it’s portrayed in the movies and when my friends and family found out I was living here, they all said ‘good for you’. People really view it as if you’re moving up in the world once you’re living here. Let me make it clear, I love living in California for so many reasons (which we’ll get into) but it wasn’t exactly what I expected when I first came here. So I thought I’d share with you all the reality of living in the Golden state just in case you’re thinking of moving here too.

  1. Pro: My very first pro (and it’s my favorite) is all the sun we get here! It truly is the sunshine state. I’m one of those people who thrive on natural sunlight. I’ll actually start getting a little depressed if I don’t get enough. But that is no issue here at all! All day, everyday the sun is out, bright, and beaming. And I love it! It seriously makes me so happy. I cannot say enough good things about the sunshine we get. We do of course have rainy days too with overcast, but in my opinion, it’s not that often at all. I actually like those days too so it doesn’t really bother me.
  2. Con: You have to drive really far to get most places (at least from where we live). I personally live close to the state’s capital, Sacramento, so we’re right in the middle of California. To put it in perspective for you, we have to drive 2 hours to get to San Francisco, 7 hours to get to San Diego, 5.5 hours to get to L.A, and 2 hours to get to Yosemite. That may not seem so bad to you, depending on where you’re from, but for me, coming from Massachusetts, that was a huge shock. Back home, everything is less than an hour away. You could literally be in another city in 15 mins and our beach was only half an hour away. So when I first moved here, I did not want to go anywhere because I couldn’t stand the long drives. I just had never done that before. But now I’m getting more used to it. The longest drive we’ve done is 4 hours and I’m sure I’ll be able to do even longer trips soon enough.
  3. Pro: There are different climates for everyone here. If you prefer the colder weather and some snow, you can choose to live up north in the sierras. If you like it hot, come to the valley. And if you want more of a cool and breezy, overcast climate, then the bay area is the place for you. You can basically find a place that is just right for you right here in California. Whatever specific climate preferences you have, they can all be met here.
  4. Con: It is sooo expensive to live here. To give you some perspective, we live in a not so safe city and yet to rent a modern, average sized home you’re looking to pay $2500! Or you can rent a house that’s not so up to date and remodeled for $2000. And again, we’re not living in an amazing city or anything like that. So just imagine if you were living in San Fran or L.A (one of the more popular cities)? It was reported that in San Francisco, a person making six-figures is considered to be in poverty…and that’s no joke! They’re barely getting by on that six-figure salary simply because their city is just so expensive! It’s to the point that if prices get any higher, we’re unfortunately thinking of moving out of state!
  5. Pro: We have some of the most amazing places to see here. I’ve mentioned them before (San Fran, L.A, San Diego, etc..) but you don’t have to go very far to see them and they’re all right here in California.
  6. Con: Because California is so expensive, you may end up having to live in a not so safe neighborhood (because it’s all you can afford). Since California is a more densely populated state, there’s more crime. Now, I personally have never been a victim of said crime, our close group of friends haven’t either but you definitely hear about it in the news. I don’t think you should let that scare you from moving to California but I think it’s just something to keep in mind.
  7. Pro: There are so many hipster and modern places here. From our new juice bars, boba cafes, and more vegan restaurants popping up, California is very much alive with the times. I love being able to try new and exciting places to not only eat but also shop. There are also so many craft shows too where people make and sell their own handmade goods.
  8. Con: We do not all live on the beach. This is a big one, but basically California isn’t exactly what you see in the movies. We don’t all have the beach in our backyard and surf all day. It may seem silly but I really believed that’s how California would be, based on what I saw on TV. You definitely can still find beautiful beaches here but we don’t all live by the coast. Like I mentioned, I live in the middle of California so it’s more city life than anything else. But going down south is where you’ll find the coast and all the beautiful beaches. So just expect that not everywhere you visit here will look like the movies.
  9. Pro: Hollywood! I’ve never personally been there yet but if you are looking to make it in the entertainment field, then California is the place for you. This is in fact where a lot of TV and music is produced so if you want to be a part of that, then it’s good to go right to the source.
  10. Con: There are dozens of homeless people here. Now before anyone gets mad I just want to say, I don’t have anything against someone who lives on the streets. That’s not the problem. What the problem is for me is that a majority of the homeless people here are on drugs or are alcoholics. They tend to lash out and do crazy things because they are under the influence. That’s when it gets dangerous. Living back home in Massachusetts, in all my 18 years of living there, I had only seen 2 homeless people. Coming to California, now that’s a whole other story. I have seen maybe probably about 30 that I’ve seen in passing with but there is also an area where they all set up camp and it’s probably close to 80 people or more who live there. Again, I have nothing against them as individuals. I know they’re people too. I just have a problem with how the drugs and alcohol affect them. There have been occasions where there were people walking around high in Target (and one time they were actually doing the drugs IN the store) and they had to be escorted out because they were yelling and getting mad at the customers and wanting to start fights. That’s when it starts to involve passerby’s and can be a danger for us.

So there you have it: my pros and cons of living in California. I bet there were probably some you never knew about before. I hope my cons didn’t scare you guys from wanting to move here. I honestly love it and I think for me my favorite part is all the sun we get here. I just soak in all the sunshine and it makes me happy. Let me know in the comments below which pro or con that was most surprising to you. Would you still move here? I do hope so ๐Ÿ™‚ I hope you guys enjoyed this article and as always, I’ll see you in my next one. Bye!


The Problem With Living Your Best Life

I’m sure by now so many of you have heard the phrase “live your best life”. A motto like that has good intentions I’m sure. But the more I see that way of thinking affecting people today (youths especially), the more I’m starting to feel that a phrase like that just does more harm than good. Let me explain…

I have seen that this motto of living your best life is actually starting to make a lot of people stressed out and feel under pressure. It creates this way of thinking that if at any moment you are unhappy with anything in your life, you need to drop it immediately because it’s keeping you from living your best life. It’s causing us, especially as a generation, to not work as hard as those before us. It’s as if we no longer want to have to endure the hard work that comes along with so many good things in life because why go through that if it’s not “your best life”. Here are some examples.

Take marriage for instance. In prior generations, marriage actually meant something. It was a lifelong commitment to your partner; a promise that even when things got rough, you would still stick it out and work through those it all. But now, we are so quick to give up! If we don’t feel constantly infatuated and in love with our partner, we want to end it. Instead of having that enduring love for our partners, we are so quick to give up because in that moment, we are not “living our best life”. We think, “why go through this if I can just end it and be with someone else who I don’t have problems with”. The thing is though, sooner or later we will start to have problems and disagreements even with that new beau. That infatuation wears off and before you know it, you’re right back where you were with your last partner. We are so quick to think about the what feels best in the moment rather than thinking about the long term consequences of our actions.

Another example is work. Before, it was long understood that you have to do the nitty-gritty, dirty work before you can make your way to the “top”. It was understood that you have to work your way up in your career which meant that you’d probably have to start out doing work that you hated. But it was worth it because there was a goal in sight and you knew that this was the way to start on your road to success. That was the understanding before but now, people just want their first job to be their dream job. They want to start out making millions. I have seen so many people that refuse to do any work (even though their dirt broke and living off their parents) simply because it’s not their dream job or not “what they want to be doing with their lives”. That is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard! It doesn’t matter if this is what you want to do with your life or not. The bottom line is you need money right now for your day to day expenses. You may have to work a retail job, a waitressing job, or at as a gas station clerk for the moment. That doesn’t mean you have to work there indefinitely. You can work on reaching your career goals on the side while you also work a not so glamorous job to get by. That’s just life. But now that we have this expectation that we have to constantly be living our best life, the thinking now is “why work at a job I hate if it’s not my best life?” And I agree that you don’t have to stay at a job that makes you miserable (at least not forever) but you may for a time have to stick it out, just until you have something else you can lean on financially. We have lost our work ethic. We no longer know how to work hard and to endure anything. We want to give up and quit so easily and it’s all because we’re basically told that we should.

Another reason why I don’t like this motto is that I feel it keeps us constantly dissatisfied. Years ago, people would appreciate their “mundane” lives. They appreciated their family unit, their home, they had a steady income, good health, basically they had all their needs met and they were satisfied. Now, we are always constantly striving to be bigger and better. We no longer are OK in a normal family home. No, now we want to live a luxurious fast lifestyle. We want fast cars, exotic trips around the world, a mansion, lots of money, we basically want the life of a celebrity. We’re no longer satisfied with the typical family life because why be satisfied with just that when you can have it all? In a way, it causes us to be greedy because we think that there’s always better out there for us. But you know what, the grass is always greener and will always be. We will always think that there is more out there that will make us happy. But having that mindset is exactly why happiness will always elude us. We will never be content and satisfied in life so we will always feel that we need to trade in our life for a bigger and better one and then we will finally be happy.

I also feel like that saying keeps us from being content with our bodies. I don’t mind people working out and trying to look their best. But I do have a problem when people are constantly going through plastic surgeries and injections, trying to obtain the “perfect” look. It’s no judgement against any person. I think if I had some extreme “flaw” that really made me self conscious, I would maybe consider getting it fixed. But most of the times that’s not what’s happening. People want to give their lips the “perfect” pout, they want to shave their nose down ever so slightly and get injections in their butt to look like a photoshopped version of a celebrity. These aren’t major “flaws”. There is nothing wrong with them to begin with. This is obsessing over your body and trying to get it to obtain a look that you can never achieve (because it’s fake). But we are told to live our best life, which at times involves doing whatever it takes to be “happy” even if it is going under risky, life threatening surgeries. But again, these things hardly ever end with someone feeling happy and satisfied with their results. It often becomes an obsession. Once they see one thing “wrong” they start noticing all these other things they’d like to fix too.

Living your best life basically makes you feel like you can never be satisfied with your current life. You must always be improving and bettering until you one day you are living your best life. It causes us to see “problems” in our life that we never saw before. We are told that we can’t be satisfied being “just a mom”, or a dad who works a normal 9-5 job and comes home to his happy family. Why settle with that when you can have a bigger and better life?

And that ladies and gentlemen is why I hate when we say “live your best life”. I understand that it has good intentions. It basically is supposed to be motivation to better yourself and your life and I am always for that. But I feel the actual outcome of trying to live by this motto is just a generation of people who are never satisfied. When ever we have problems, we just want to drop whatever is causing them and runaway from it. We no longer want to put in the work that most great things in life require. But the thing is that most of the time we have to muddle through the rough times to enjoy the good ones waiting for us on the the other side.

Let me know in the comments below what you guys think. Do you agree with my viewpoint or do you think I’m just taking it all too seriously? I would really love to hear from you and see how you guys feel about it. But until then, I’ll see you all next time. Bye!


I’m A Homemaker And I Wouldn’t Have It Any Other Way

*Disclaimer: I just want to say that this article is not meant to offend or judge anyone else’s decision of whether they decide to stay home or not. This is not about me telling you that you’re doing anything wrong. This is simply me expressing why I love being a stay at home mom/wife and just what it means to me. I hope no one will feel hurt or like I’m attacking them because that is not my intention at all. With all that being said, I hope you enjoy the article.*

Now, more than ever, homemakers are getting a bad rap. They are often looked down upon and viewed as lazy and someone who doesn’t have a “real” job. They are thought of as being oppressed, sad, bored, and lonely. But let me tell you why that is the furthest thing from the truth.

What It Means To Be A Homemaker

First and foremost, what do I mean when I say “homemaker”? Well there are a few different names that we may go by including housewife and stay at home mom. Generally it’s someone who takes care of the home (whether they have kids or not) while their husband has a secular job. So now that we’ve got that cleared away, let’s get into it.

Often times people believe that all homemakers do is clean the house and slap together a quick meal and with the rest of the day we just lounge around in our yoga pants eating bon bons. But there is really so much more to it and to be honest, I don’t even know what bon bons are. So there’s that.

The Power Of A Homemaker

As a homemaker, our main focus is to make the living space for our family as cozy, warm, and inviting as possible. That simply cannot be done with cleaning alone. Homemaking involves decorating to make the place feel warm. We organize so that our family doesn’t constantly feel frazzled, stressed, and overall just a mess. We make sure clothes are clean and ready for our family so that again, there will be less stress in the day to day life of our family. Being a homemaker is all about helping your family life to flow. You make things easier on them. It also helps everyone know what their role is in the marriage: the husband takes care of the finances and makes sure his family is cared for in that way while the wife takes care of things inside the home (including the cooking and cleaning). Neither of you have to worry about having to clean the house after already working an 8 hour work day. Since homemaking is your job, you can get it done during the day and in the evening when your husband comes home to a nice, peaceful atmosphere, you can both relax and enjoy your time together as a family.

I truly believe that a homemaker has the power to create peace in the home. You no longer are stuck in a constant hustle and bustle rut of constantly going. You no longer have to worry about working a 9-5 job and taking care of the kids and the home and cooking a meal and going to bed just to run the same hectic race the next day. But you and your husband are actually able to help take a load off of each other. My husband doesn’t have to worry about what meal he’s going to have to cook after a long stressful day. He doesn’t have to worry about whether or not his work clothes will be clean and ready for the day. And since we have a daughter, he doesn’t have to worry about who’s watching her and whether they’ll be a good caretaker or not. Since my husband takes care of the finances, I don’t have to even think about it. He’ll keep me in the loop of how everything is looking but for the most part, he takes care of all that.

Am I Really Oppressed?

Being a homemaker has been so stigmatized that now no one wants to do it. Back in about the 1950s era, the norm was to be a housewife and most women weren’t given an option of doing anything else. So now that we’ve come out of that and a majority of women now work outside the home, a lot of times people are just astonished that you would willingly choose to stay home. They view it as oppression, as if you’re not reaching your full potential, and like you’re actually dumb for wanting to make such a decision. But I can’t even begin to tell you how being a housewife actually is one of the least oppressive thing you can do!

For starters, I get to set my own hours. I can have a slow morning if I want. I can even choose to not work at all if I’m feeling sick. I can take mini trips and choose to drive to any local city and spend the day there. I can hangout with friends who also stay home. I could choose to stay in my pj’s if I wanted to. I could choose to start a creative career from home (ex: becoming a YouTuber, starting an Etsy shop of homemade goods, selling my clothes on an online thrift store, becoming a blogger, and so much more!) I can watch TV during the day and still get my work done. I can choose to explore some hobbies. I can stay home with my pets. I can take classes. I can choose to drive to the beach and spend the day there. And the list just goes on and on. How many jobs do you know of that would actually let you do even just a few of those things? My guess is probably none. So no, I am not oppressed, not even in the slightest. I’m not kept home in the dark all day and told that I can’t leave unless every little thing in the house is clean enough that you could eat off of it. And I’m also not bored out of mind and just depressed all day because of loneliness. I actually keep very busy, especially because I have my 2 year old daughter to care for. I honestly feel so fulfilled and happy. There’s absolutely nothing I’d rather be doing.

I hope by my little article that you were able to see a different side to being a homemaker than you did before. I’m not here to try and change your mind, but rather to give you some insight. It really is a job that a lot of us actually enjoy and are happy to do. Let me know what you thought of this article and if your opinion differs from mine, don’t shy away from expressing it. It’s nice when we can have an open dialogue and just hear what each other has to say. So on that note: I’d love to hear from you. Please give this article a like if you did enjoy it and until next time…bye! ๐Ÿ™‚


Why The Terrible Two’s Really Aren’t So Terrible At All

Before I had my daughter, I was terrified of when she would turn 2. I would hear from everyone how kids are so crazy, throw so many tantrums and scream and fuss when they’re at that age. I was never worried about the newborn stage, the self sacrifice of being a parent, or anything like that. But I was anxious of my toddler throwing a full blown, uncontrollable fit at target that would turn everyone’s heads and that I wouldn’t be able to stop. But let me tell you why the “terrible two’s” is all one big fat lie. Toddlers don’t have to be crazy wild childs at all and I’ll tell you how you can prevent all of that from happening.

First let’s talk about when is the right time to tell your kids “no”. I would see on online forums that some moms would ask when’s the right time to say no to their kids. Now, that’s something I have never understood. So many parents would act like you can’t tell a baby no. But why? If my baby did something wrong or that wasn’t nice (say for example hitting someone) I would tell her “no, that’s not nice.” And very soon she understood that that was not acceptable behavior. I don’t know why someone would delay saying no to their child. A lot of people on that forum said that you could start saying no once your child was close to two years old. Then they would wonder why their child started acting out around that same time. But imagine getting everything you want, no one ever refusing any demands you made for 2 full years and after getting that special treatment for so long, you start getting told “no” and for so many things. I think that would make anyone frustrated, so just imagine how a toddler, who is still learning how to express their emotions, would react and feel. So my first tip is to not be afraid to tell your kids no, even when they are babies. I honestly don’t understand why someone wouldn’t want to tell their kids that a certain behavior is wrong and not OK to do. I don’t feel that that’s a mean thing to do at all. And your kids will understand what no means very soon. They are so much smarter than we even know.

My next tip would be to stick to your word. If you tell your child that if they aren’t listening then you would take a certain thing away from them, then you need to stick with that (even if it does make things more difficult for you). They need to know that when you say something, you mean it. If you don’t stick with your word, your kids won’t take what you say seriously. They’ll know that they can just negotiate their way out of things and that there’s no real consequences for their actions. And that’s just not right. That’s not the way the world works.

I was actually at my daughters gymnastics class yesterday when she had thrown a toy where it didn’t belong and with a little attitude too. I told her that she needed to pick it up and put it back where it belonged. At first she just looked at me and tried walking away. So I told her one more time that she needs to put it back where it goes or we were going to leave right then and there. So she quickly picked it up and put it away. Mind you, she’s only 2.5 years old. But she knows by now that when mom says something, she means it. That’s when one of the other moms there said “wow my son would’ve never listened to me. He would’ve just ignored me.” But that’s not right and that little boy needs to learn that that is not OK.

A lot of time, sticking with what you say can be more work for you. For example if my daughter chose not to listen at gymnastics, we would’ve had to leave. Now, I enjoy my time over there and I personally would not have wanted to leave. My daughter probably would’ve cried very loudly as we left, directing everyone’s attention to us. And no, I would not have wanted any of that. But I know that a little work now will pay off so much in the near future. You will have such a well behaved and respectful child who listens to you if you just stick to what you say. Because I put in that work when my daughter was younger, she listens so well now as a toddler.

I know of 4 year olds who still throw tantrums but when you look at the discipline that child gets, you’ll see that it’s inconsistent and they often get away with everything. Most of the time there is no discipline for that child. I’m tired of people saying that 3 year olds are worse than 2 year olds and then other people saying, ‘you think 3 is bad, just wait till they turn 4’. It’s all so ridiculous to me. I honestly believe it all boils down to the parenting: is that child getting disciplined and corrected for his wrong behavior? Are the parents talking to him and letting him know why that’s not acceptable? If not, then please don’t blame the child’s age. It really ruins it for those who have never had kids of their own. I know some people who are seriously not having kids because their scared of the terrible 2’s. If only they knew it was all a myth! I try telling them it’s not true, but there’s just so much fear focused around that age that they don’t believe me.

I hope these tips were able to help you. This is not to judge anyone’s parenting. This article is more so for parents who haven’t entered into this stage yet and are fearful over it. I want you to know that there is nothing to be worried about. I’d say, yes as a 2 year old kid will want to be more independent and you can let them do things on their own when you’re able to. Sometimes it’s just not practical or there may not be enough time. It’s OK to say no when you need to. At first your kids may get upset and cry a bit because they wanted to do it. But you can simply explain that sometimes they can do it but sometimes mama needs to do it. It should never escalate to a full blown tantrum though. And soon enough they’ll be more calm when you tell them that you need to do it this time.

(And just to clarify, when I say discipline, I do not mean beating your child. I don’t know why but some people think they mean the same thing when they absolutely do not. The majority of the time, discipline for me means taking away something my daughter would want, like her cartoons or I’ll send her to her room for literally 2 minutes so she can calm down. But I’ll always give her a warning before I take anything away and then I always explain to her afterwards why.)

Let me know what you guys thought of this article. And how do you feel? Can the “terrible 2’s” be avoided or is it just inevitable for every child? I’d love to hear from you.

Till next time,


How To Make Traveling With A Toddler Easier

Good morning to all you beautiful people! For those of you who don’t know, I just started my very own YouTube channel!! Yay!! In my very first video, we discuss how to make traveling with a toddler easier. I personally have had a very smooth flight when traveling with my one year old last year to Kauai and in just one more week we’ll be boarding the plane again and making our way to Boston (my home town). So I wanted to share with you all what worked for me then, and what I’m planning on doing different now that my little girl is 2. I hope you guys enjoy the video and if you do, I would appreciate it so very much if you could drop a like or even subscribe. To search for me on YouTube you would type in my personal name: Paula Moral. (And just so you all know, I won’t be discussing just mom related things on my channel. I’ll also be covering: fitness, health, beauty, makeup, home decor and organization, motivation videos for reaching goals, and so much more. I do hope you’ll check it out and like what you see. Till then, bye! ๐Ÿ™‚

Self Love Series-Part 1: Why It Is So Important To Wear Clothes That Fit You Right Now (And Get Rid Of Those That Don’t)

To many that may seem like a basic concept: just wear clothes that are your correct size. But for years, I and along with so many others, have been wearing the wrong size. It’s normally because we want to use it as a motivator to lose weight or because we’re too embarrassed to have to shop for larger sizes. I personally just realized right now as a 22 year old that I have been wearing clothes that were about one to two sizes too small. And I would always wonder how come my clothes always felt so tight and uncomfortable no matter how much weight I lost. I figured that as long as a certain size fit me, that meant that it was my size. So even though XS clothing would be super tight on me, I would buy it thinking that was my size. Even when I would feel terribly uncomfortable in that clothing, I wouldn’t dare size up. I feared that would just cause me to gain more and more weight and that I would just continuously size up from there. I felt that this was the size I was supposed to be so if my clothes felt tight, I would just have to lose more weight (even though the clothes never really fit me to begin with). I want to talk to you though about why I think that’s such a toxic thing to do for your self esteem especially if you’re someone like me who’s on a self love journey.

Wearing clothes that are too tight for you because you think it’ll motivate you to lose weight may be doing more harm than good. When you wear clothes that are so restrictive that it makes it hard to breath, it feels like you’re torturing yourself. And why do we do it? So that it could hopefully move us to lose weight. But doesn’t that seem like an act of hate towards our bodies, like we’re punishing ourselves? I sure feel that way. Plus, when you wear clothes that are too small, it just doesn’t look good. So not only do you not feel comfortable, you also probably don’t feel your most attractive. Why do we do that to ourselves? We then say, well when I lose the weight these clothes will finally fit better. So are we supposed to just endure our achingly tight jeans and shirt that is so small it shows off each and every roll we have? That may take months. By doing that, we send ourselves the message that we don’t deserve to feel good in what we wear or how we look until we make ourselves smaller and that’s not right.

I’ve just recently sized up in my clothing (like literally this past month) and finally got the right size for me. I was still trying to fit into the same size that I wore as a 15 year old girl even though I am now 22. My body has changed so much in that time, just as it rightfully should. In that time my hips have widen, I have grown and birthed my beautiful baby girl, and I have completed puberty. How can I expect my now grown and womanly body to still fit the same size as a young teenager? I finally bought clothes in a size medium and let me tell you, I feel 1000 times better about myself. I am so much more confident about the way I look. My clothes flatter me now. And I just generally feel so much better about myself. To be honest with you, I was scared of going up to a medium size. I wanted to stay with the label of small or extra small. It’s silly, I know, because just because your clothes have a certain label on them doesn’t mean they’re going to look good on your body type or size. Isn’t that what we all want, to look good in whatever it is we’re wearing? And the crazy thing is, depending on the brand you may have to go up or down a size. So that just goes to show that a size label is just that, a label.

By writing this article, I’m not saying that you can’t have weight loss goals or want to be a smaller size. I believe in self improvement and bettering your body with exercise and healthy eating. I just feel when self loves comes into play, it’ll help you to still strive towards those goals but in a way that is allowing you to still be kind and loving to yourself. So you won’t have to starve yourself or wear clothes that make you feel bad all in the name of weight loss. You can still lose weight but in a way that shows your body and yourself that you love you. You can do it with clean eating and exercise because those things make you feel good, and not because you hate yourself or your appearance.

So please go into your closet today and get rid of all those clothes that don’t make you feel good about yourself. It may be a process that takes some time. It all depends on how quickly you’re able to replace those clothes with new ones that are your true size. But it is definitely something that is worth doing. Stop forcing yourself to feel uncomfortable day in and day out in hopes that one day you’ll lose the weight and your small clothes will start to fit you better. You deserve to feel good now and if you did happen to lose weight later on then you could always buy yourself some new clothes then. You don’t have to wait till you’re a certain size to feel confident. You can do that right now.

I hope you enjoyed today’s article and that it was something you could take to heart. If you did like it, then please leave a comment or a like down below so I know to write more pieces like this for you guys. I hope you all have a good day and I’ll see you next time.


Paula Moral

My Goals For The New Year (2019)

I’m sure most people would agree that the start of a new year is the perfect time to set new goals. It’s like a fresh start to a whole new and improved you! It’s a time I look forward to because it motivates me to work hard on bettering myself. I think it’s so important that we’re constantly growing and becoming better in life and goals help you to do just that. So I thought I’d share with you my goals for this year in hopes that maybe it’ll help motivate you with your own.

1. First and foremost I really want to work on building my blog up to the point where it becomes my business. This is a goal that I’ve had for a while now but never really stuck with it. Mostly because I thought it wouldn’t work out. I was basically setting myself up for failure. But after hearing lectures from others who built a business out of their blog, I realized that all I really need to do was put in the work and be consistent with it. I believe in myself now and I know I can do anything I set my mind to. So I’m ready to put in the work.

2. Another top goal that I have is losing 20 pounds! For those that have read my previous posts on weight loss, this may seem confusing to you. I know at one point, I renounced weight loss and said I was going to just accept my body for what it was. But you know what, that didn’t work for me. I was still uncomfortable with my weight and was just acting like I was fine with it when I really wasn’t. I was tired of feeling self conscious and always feeling nervous once the warmer weather came around because I no longer could cover up. I’ve already been working on losing the weight for about 2 weeks now and I’ve seen great progress. So I just want to make sure that I stick with it until I’m happy and confident with my body (which I’m guessing will be around 20 pounds lost).

3. I want to continue working out consistently at least 3x a week. I used to work out really consistently before I had my daughter, who is now 2 years old. It’s not her fault at all, I just think I’m more tired now and busy so it just takes more of an effort to get it done. Since she’s been born, I’ll have spurts of working out for a whole month but then I’ll stop and won’t exercise again till months later. So I just want to be more consistent with it during this new year because I know I’d make great progress. I’ve been working out now for about a month and a half so I want to make sure that I stay with it and that this isn’t just another one of those months where I workout hard and then don’t do anything for a while. 

4. Along with goal #1, I want to take classes, read books, and watch videos on growing my blog and becoming a better writer. I want this to be my profession so I really want to take it serious and educate myself so I can become the best that I can be.  

5. I’d like to also expand on the recipes I make for dinner too. I think I cook really good and my husband agrees too but I just want to shake it up a bit. We tend to eat chicken (or any other kind of meat), rice or couscous, and roasted veggies or salad. It’s really yummy and I love eating those kind of meals but I also know that it can get boring eating the same thing everyday. I’ve tried changing it up in any way I can, by using different grains, meat, and veggies. But we’ve pretty much tried every variation you can think of so we just need some new recipes in general to help us out. 

6. I also want to switch all (or at least most of) my makeup and beauty products to natural ones. My main reason being that conventional beauty products have been known to have carcinogens, hormone disruptors, and so much more junk and it’s all making us sick. This is something I’ve been knowing for a while now. I started switching my products back when I was pregnant with my daughter. It was more important to me then since I wanted to make sure that she was able to develop as healthy as possible. But once she was born and things got busy with a new baby, that all kind of took a back seat in my priorities. Lately, I haven’t been feeling well, like my hormones are not right. So I’m doing all that I can to get them balanced and cleaning up my beauty products is a huge part in that.  And if we can prevent ourselves from getting sick or developing certain diseases, then why not do it?

7. I also want to choose to watch more documentaries and educational things on TV too. I just want to constantly be learning new things and expanding my mind. It’s good for you too, just to constantly be learning new things and challenging your brain. I don’t want to waste my time watching reality TV shows and sitcoms. Those are fun and entertaining and I definitely will continue to watch those, but I also want to make sure that I’m taking the time to actually learn new things too.

8. Another big goal of mine is to save up enough money so that we can visit Massachusetts this year. That is my home and it always will be. I miss everything about Massachusetts. The city I lived in was filled with mainly Dominican people which is also my family’s nationality so it just feels like family no matter who I talk to over there. I miss that and I miss the culture, the sense of humor of the people, the greenery, and of course I miss my friends and family. I just feel like a part of me is missing and was left behind in Massachusetts and until I go back, that part of me will just remain empty. I can’t wait to simply get reconnected and back in touch with my roots. It’ll also be the first time that my daughter will be visiting my hometown so that’ll be really exciting. I think it’ll feel so nostalgic taking her to see all my favorite childhood spots. I can’t wait!

So what do you think? These are pretty much my main goals for this upcoming new year. Are any of yours similar to mine? Let me know in the comments below. I’d love to hear from you ๐Ÿ™‚ I hope you enjoyed this post and that you were able to get a little something out of it.

Till next time,


What I Do All Day As A Stay At Home Mom

This is the biggest question that I feel most stay at home moms get: “what do you do all day?” It’s a real and legitimate question and one that I don’t take offense to at all. I personally love staying home with my baby and I am just so grateful that I get to spend each and every moment with her. I know many people are sincerely interested in what we do so I thought I’d share with you my personal schedule. ๐Ÿ™‚

6:00am-8:00am- I wake up and start getting myself ready for the day. I brush my teeth, wash my face, and then I put my makeup on. Once I’m done with that I do some positive reading in the morning to get my day off on a right start. I then eat my breakfast and watch a little TV with it. As soon as I’m done eating, it’s time to go get my little girl.

8:00am-8:20am- My daughter wakes up at about 7:30am so by the time I get her, she’s already awake and playing in her crib. I wipe her clean from last night’s diaper and then we head to the sofa so she can nurse. She’s been nursing for less and less time lately so I’d say she maybe does it for 15-20 minutes now.

8:20am-10:20am- Once she’s done nursing, I put on some cartoons for the morning. My daughter will sit and watch cartoons with me for about 20 minutes and then she’ll get up and play with her toys. While she plays and watches TV, that’s when I get most of my cleaning done. I first start with dishes and while I’m in the kitchen I’ll get her something to eat. It all depends on her appetite. Sometimes she’s hungry enough for a full meal and other times she’ll just want to snack on things here and there. After dishes, I’ll just clean whatever needs to get done: laundry, the bathroom, tidying up toys, and anything else.

10:30am-12:30pm- At around 10:30, we’ll go out somewhere on most days. We’ll either do errands like grocery shopping or we’ll go somewhere fun like an indoor playground, a kid’s book reading, the library, the park, or a friend’s house. I try to get my daughter out pretty frequently just for fun but also for socializing with other kids, especially since she’s an only child.

12:30pm-2:00pm- By the time we get home, my daughter is exhausted and ready for her nap. I’ll nurse her to sleep in my bed and she usually falls asleep pretty quickly. As soon as she’s asleep, I do a quick 15 minute workout. They are short but effective! Once I’m done with that, I start making dinner for our family. It may seem early, but my husband comes home around 3:00pm so we do eat a very early dinner.

2:00pm-2:30pm- Around this time, my daughter wakes up from her nap and I’ll nurse her again. She’ll usually nurse longer around this time just because she’s still so sleepy.

3:00pm-6:00pm- My hubby’s home! We love this part of the day ๐Ÿ™‚ I try to make the home as warm and inviting for him as I possibly can. I want our home to be a sanctuary for him, where he can just relax and not worry about anything. So I let him relax, I serve him his dinner, and we talk about our day with each other. We all eat together as a family and just relax during this time. I usually play with my daughter some more once we’re done eating and I’ll read with her. We have the TV on in the background during this time too.

6:00pm-7:00pm- It’s bath time for my baby girl. Usually I give her a bubble bath but lately I’ve just been taking her a shower when I take mine too. I’ve just been so tired lately and it saves so much time if we get our showers done together. After her shower, I brush her teeth, do her night time diaper, and then nurse her before she falls asleep. We talk for a bit and sing songs before I finally leave her to fall asleep.

7:00pm-8:00pm- My hubby and I will spend some time together before he falls asleep. He does sleep early (at 8pm) since he wakes up for work at 2:30am. We’ll just watch TV, talk, and enjoy our time together.

8:00pm-11:00pm- This is my alone time. I use it to paint my nails, do my hair, or write out my thoughts in my journal. And now that my blog is up and running, I use the time to work on new posts or improve my blog in other ways.

11:00pm- It’s finally bedtime. I go to sleep with my sweet sweet husband and get the rest I need to start our great day.

I really love being a stay at home mom. I especially love the flexibility it gives me. If I’m exhausted one day or just feel burnt out, I can choose to do less that day. Or I can even choose to take a relaxing bubble bath with my baby girl or take a nap with her if I’m needing one that day. What other job will allow you to do that! I do feel that being a stay at home mom definitely is work but one of the major perks is that you can pretty much build your own schedule and choose to have a day where you rest if you need it. But I want you to know that this is my own personal schedule. Every mama’s is gonna be different. It all depends on how many kids they have, where they live, their financial situation, and so much more. This is just what I do and what works for our little family.

I hope this was able to give you at least a little more insight into what some of us mamas do at home. If you have any questions for me about things I may have not covered, please feel free to leave them in the comments below and I will definitly get back to you. I hope you enjoyed getting a little personal with me and seeing how my days usually unfold. Thanks for stopping by and I look forward to having you here again.

Till next time,


How To Look Like You Have You’re Life Together (Even When You’re A Hot Mess)

My number one pet peeve is when I look a hot mess. I mean, it’s one thing to feel like a mess but its a whole other thing to look it. Just because I’m having a bad day and am feeling frazzled, doesn’t mean I want everyone to know about it simply by looking at me. So throughout this past year, I have especially focused on getting my appearance more put together, even if my life isn’t quite there. I have just always admired women who look so fashionable, polished, and put together. I feel like I’m getting pretty close to the look I want so I thought I’d share with you guys some of the things I’ve learned. Here are the top 6 things I have learned:

  1. Hair- I can’t believe that for the longest time I was walking around with my frizzy, undone hair. It’s embarrassing really. It actually wasn’t until about 6 months ago that I started using hot tools for my hair (like a straightener or curling iron). I was just always worried about heat damage so I avoided those tools by any means possible. But I’ve realized that it’s not worth it if you’re just looking a mess in the mean time. Please don’t be like my former self and go around looking crazy. You’ll be surprised at how much more polished you’ll look simply by straightening your hair or curling it. The key is to keep your hair healthy by using heat protecting creams and giving your hair some deep conditioning treatments. (I can get more into specific products I use in another article.) You want to make sure too that you’re hair is combed through and that you’re not walking around with a bird’s nest on your head. This is something I’ve unfortunately have experienced far too many times so I carry a mini brush in my purse now.
  2. Skin- It took me years before I finally realized that you just cannot hide bad skin. It doesn’t matter how much makeup you layer on your face, if you have bad skin, people will know it. Makeup may be able to hide discoloration but it cannot hide bumpy skin or acne. I could not believe the difference in my skin’s appearance once I took steps to improve its texture. My face looked so smooth and my makeup stayed on better. The major game changers for me were: witch hazel, rose hip oil, and a face brush. The witch hazel helped shrink my pores. The rose hip oil helped lighten my scars. And the face brush helped to smooth out my skin’s texture and get rid of any scars that remained.
  3. Wardrobe- It is so important that you have a wardrobe made up of pieces that coordinate well with each other. If you have a specific color scheme for your clothes, then they will all be able to mix and match. So you can have little clothing but if they work together, then you’ll have so many variations of outfits. You want to make sure you’re wearing colors that compliment your skin tone too. For so long I wore colors that just did not look well on me. Wearing the wrong color for your tone can either wash you out, making you look pale or it can really bring out the red undertones in your skin making your face look cherry red. You should also aim to wear clothes that flatter your body shape too. All body shapes can look stylish, it all depends on what you wear.
  4. Nails- Now, you don’t have to be a girly girl and have your nails painted at all times. Just make sure your nails are well groomed and manicured. They don’t need to have paint on them but they do need to be clean and not jagged or crooked. But if you do paint your nails, just make sure you keep up with them so that the paint is not all chipped. It ends up looking trashy when they’re half painted. It can take less than 15 minutes to touch them up too if you use the quick dry top coat.
  5. Hygiene- It’s simple and I’m sure you all know these but we’ll just do a quick recap. Just make sure you shower frequently, perhaps everyday. Wear a good coverage deodorant and maybe even carry a little travel size one if yours tends to wear off later in the day. Perfume is always a nice touch too. Just try not to wear anything that’s too over bearing. You don’t have to wear perfume if that’s not your thing either. The bottom line is: just please don’t be stinky.
  6. Makeup- During my teenage years, I looked a mess with all my crazy makeup. I would fill my eyebrows in too thick or too dark, I’d use an orange shade of foundation, or wear a super bright pink lipstick. It looked so bad that I cringe when I look back at old pictures! Take some time to try and learn some tips and it’ll go a long way. Simple techniques really improved my makeup look so much. Things like using a sponge to apply my makeup, dabbing my makeup on instead of smearing it on, and using primer and finishing spray so it can last all day. You don’t have to spend hours watching makeup tutorials. Just watching a few videos here and there have helped me to learn so many tips that really changed my whole look. I’ve also learned that less is more when it comes to makeup. So that’s something you may want to keep in mind too.

I hope these tips have been able to help so that even if you’re a mess inside, you can at least look like you have your life together on the outside. These are things that I’ve taken years to sort of master (if I can even say so I hope I’ve been able to give you a bit of a shortcut so you can save your time and look fabulous even now. Please leave a comment down below so I can know how you liked it and I hope to see you around here for my next post.

Till then,