Jealousy is an ugly quality that I’m sure we all want to avoid. It can kill a moment and just create the worst tension in a room if you or someone else there is the one exhibiting this negative trait. It’s not a word that you necessarily want someone to describe you as either. So how can we avoid? How can we keep this less than attractive quality from wrecking havoc on what could potentially be a good day? Today I want to share with you how I’ve personally been able to distance myself more and more from this trait.
Let’s be honest. When we’re feeling jealous, it’s most likely because we’re actually feeling a bit insecure at the moment. For me personally, if I’m feeling confident, it doesn’t matter to me what anyone else around me is doing or how they look because I feel good about myself and my worth. I don’t need to compare or compete with anyone because I know I’m good as I am. It’s on the days where I’m not feeling so great about myself and feeling insecure that I will start to compare myself and then feel even worse because I’ll feel like I’m lacking in some area. So my answer to jealousy is to do what you can to better yourself and get to where you want to be.
Are you feeling insecure because of your acne which then makes you jealous of others with clear skin? Or are you insecure about your weight so that you then feel jealous of others who are at a healthier weight? Do what you can to fix those issues so that you have nothing to feel bad about. Don’t be mad at someone just because they have something that you want. Instead use those people as motivation and inspiration to work on yourself and then achieve those things that you are longing for and were once jealous of.
I know it’s not easy to just flip the switch and to start using any negative feelings you may have and turn them into positive actions, but it is well worth it. In the end, you will be someone that people want to spend time with because you don’t carry the negative traits that come along with being jealous. You will be someone who is more bright and positive because you will have used your energy towards bettering yourself instead of hating others and being bitter.
I’m telling you, a majority of the things your self conscious of can be worked on. I used to be heavily over weight, have a deeper voice, a negative attitude and mindset about everything, brittle frizzy hair, cystic acne filled face, and so many more negative attributes. I didn’t like the overall person I was because not only did I not look the way I wanted but I also had a horrible attitude to couple that. So I literally sat down and thought of who I want to be as a person. (I did this a lot when I was 12 and 13). I like to draw so I would draw out the person I want to be. I wanted to be sweet and gentle and kind. I wanted to be loving and affectionate. I wanted to be someone who walked with grace and was well poised. A lot of these things didn’t come naturally to me so I really had to work on them, and so I did.
It took some time but I slowly started to become the person I always wanted to be. All that is to say that the very person you’re jealous of, you can be. Whatever it is they have, you can attain. I would say at least 90% of the change you want is within your control. That’s a lot that you have power over. You can be the exact person you want to be and that is so liberating to hear! You don’t have to be bitter that you’re not like so and so or don’t have a certain thing that they do. You can work on bettering yourself to the point that your days of being jealous will be far and few between; to the point that it’s rare for you to have one of those days. You have the power to be who you want to be. It’s all up to you.
Tell me, what did you guys think of this article? Was it informative or helpful? I sure hope it was. Being jealous is no fun for anyone sitting in that room. I want you to have as many good days as possible and to be so confident about yourself that you don’t really long to be like anyone else because you are content and happy with the person you’ve worked hard to become. Please let me know what you guys thought of this article because I just love to hear from you. I hope you guys have a good rest of your day (or for those like me, a good night). I’ll see you in my next one.