How To Avoid Being Jealous

Jealousy is an ugly quality that I’m sure we all want to avoid. It can kill a moment and just create the worst tension in a room if you or someone else there is the one exhibiting this negative trait. It’s not a word that you necessarily want someone to describe you as either. So how can we avoid? How can we keep this less than attractive quality from wrecking havoc on what could potentially be a good day? Today I want to share with you how I’ve personally been able to distance myself more and more from this trait.

Let’s be honest. When we’re feeling jealous, it’s most likely because we’re actually feeling a bit insecure at the moment. For me personally, if I’m feeling confident, it doesn’t matter to me what anyone else around me is doing or how they look because I feel good about myself and my worth. I don’t need to compare or compete with anyone because I know I’m good as I am. It’s on the days where I’m not feeling so great about myself and feeling insecure that I will start to compare myself and then feel even worse because I’ll feel like I’m lacking in some area. So my answer to jealousy is to do what you can to better yourself and get to where you want to be.

Are you feeling insecure because of your acne which then makes you jealous of others with clear skin? Or are you insecure about your weight so that you then feel jealous of others who are at a healthier weight? Do what you can to fix those issues so that you have nothing to feel bad about. Don’t be mad at someone just because they have something that you want. Instead use those people as motivation and inspiration to work on yourself and then achieve those things that you are longing for and were once jealous of.

I know it’s not easy to just flip the switch and to start using any negative feelings you may have and turn them into positive actions, but it is well worth it. In the end, you will be someone that people want to spend time with because you don’t carry the negative traits that come along with being jealous. You will be someone who is more bright and positive because you will have used your energy towards bettering yourself instead of hating others and being bitter.

I’m telling you, a majority of the things your self conscious of can be worked on. I used to be heavily over weight, have a deeper voice, a negative attitude and mindset about everything, brittle frizzy hair, cystic acne filled face, and so many more negative attributes. I didn’t like the overall person I was because not only did I not look the way I wanted but I also had a horrible attitude to couple that. So I literally sat down and thought of who I want to be as a person. (I did this a lot when I was 12 and 13). I like to draw so I would draw out the person I want to be. I wanted to be sweet and gentle and kind. I wanted to be loving and affectionate. I wanted to be someone who walked with grace and was well poised. A lot of these things didn’t come naturally to me so I really had to work on them, and so I did.

It took some time but I slowly started to become the person I always wanted to be. All that is to say that the very person you’re jealous of, you can be. Whatever it is they have, you can attain. I would say at least 90% of the change you want is within your control. That’s a lot that you have power over. You can be the exact person you want to be and that is so liberating to hear! You don’t have to be bitter that you’re not like so and so or don’t have a certain thing that they do. You can work on bettering yourself to the point that your days of being jealous will be far and few between; to the point that it’s rare for you to have one of those days. You have the power to be who you want to be. It’s all up to you.

Tell me, what did you guys think of this article? Was it informative or helpful? I sure hope it was. Being jealous is no fun for anyone sitting in that room. I want you to have as many good days as possible and to be so confident about yourself that you don’t really long to be like anyone else because you are content and happy with the person you’ve worked hard to become. Please let me know what you guys thought of this article because I just love to hear from you. I hope you guys have a good rest of your day (or for those like me, a good night). I’ll see you in my next one.

Bye,

Paula🌙

Rediscovering My Love For Reading

Growing up, I always loved reading. I mean, you could catch me for hours at a time with my nose in a series of books. Even after coming home from a long day of school and doing all the book work that it entails, including my homework in the evening, I would still want to do more reading; just for fun. I would often fall asleep with 10+ books in my bed because one of my favorite things to do was to interchange between a variety of books, reading whatever I was inclined to at the moment before blissfully drifting off to sleep. I was a huge bookworm, that was my thing and as a result I had such a great imagination and an amazing ability to write. But to be honest, I haven’t delved that deep into books in a looong time; probably about 10 years to be exact.

The last time I actually read a book and finished it was close to 3 years ago! So what happened? How did this book lover suddenly neglect that love for so many years? Well it all started when High school rolled along. Once the book work amplified like it did, I just had no time for reading. I often stayed up till 3 in the morning just to get my homework done and most of the time, it still somehow wouldn’t be complete. So with working non stop on school work and with no time to even consider having a hobby or to even get a solid night’s sleep, any extra reading just went right out the window. I had no time or energy for it. Once I finished with schooling, I quickly got married and had a baby. While my daughter was still in the baby stage, I again had barely enough time or energy for any reading. But now that my girl is 3.5 years old and very much independent, I now find that after all these years I finally have extra time for my literary endeavors.

I’ve just started reading Pride and Prejudice (which is embarrassing to say considering it’s a classic). I decided to just start with a tried and true book since I had no idea where to start. As a side note, I just can’t believe how much brain power it takes to read. To focus all your attention on one thing, to picture the scene, and to decipher the advanced language that is being used; and to think that I used to do that all so effortlessly as a kid! It’s so sad to think, but for a while when I could’ve read a book, I opted instead to watch videos because it was just the easier thing to do, it didn’t required no effort at all. Now my mind is really being challenged to work harder and use my imagination once again.

I want to start a series here where I review books that have films based on them. Then I want to also review the movie and talk about how true it was to the book and which one I preferred. From my experience, the book is always better than the movie but who knows, maybe I’ll come across a movie that will change my mind.

Tell me, what do you guys think? Are you trying to learn to love reading again or is it a love you’ve never strayed from? And how do you feel about me starting the movie and book review series? I think it’ll be fun. It’ll be something I can really see myself enjoying and I hope you guys will too. Please give me your book recommendations down below too. I’m in desperate need of some.

Hope you enjoyed!

-Paula💛🌺🌵

How I Transformed My Skin And Finally Got Rid Of My Cystic Acne (With Pictures)

Before: On the right, After: left
Both with no makeup and no filter. What a difference!

(*Little disclaimer: I am not a doctor by any means. This is just what I found through my research and what ultimately worked for me. So please do your own research and check with your doctor first before trying any of these things.*)

If you didn’t know me before I had my cystic acne, you would never be able to tell that it was something I once struggled with. I don’t have any scars, discoloration, or deep indents left on my face. It wasn’t always like that though. It actually wasn’t until these past two years that I was finally able to smooth out my skin and get rid of all traces of my past acne. But to see how I finally ended up with smooth, acne-free skin, I think it’s important that we go back to the start, when my acne first began to make an appearance.

I started getting acne when I was in 5th grade at only 11 years old. At that time it was simply bumps all across my forehead and that’s where it remained. There was no redness to my skin but the bumps were still noticeable so I always made sure I had bangs to help cover it all up. That was 5th grade.

There was no hiding it; the acne consumed my face! I was already 19 by this time and still struggling with the scars

It wasn’t until 6th grade when I started getting the cystic acne all along my jaw. That would be the start of years and years of battling with this extreme type of acne. I actually had a teacher once tell me “You think I’m listening to you when you’re talking to me? I’m just staring at all the acne on your face. You kids need to wash your faces.” That was so crushing to hear and just overall a really harsh thing to say to a 12 year old. But you know, I wish it was as simple as that. I tried so many soaps like Clean and Clear, Proactive, apricot scrubs, even a sugar scrub. Those cleansers either did nothing for me or they just aggravated my acne more. I also tried tea bags and toothpaste on my face, all home remedies that many people swore by. I was willing to try anything, no matter how painful. I cried many times throughout these different treatments because a lot of the time they hurt so much and it was so frustrating that none of them even worked. So after trying everything we possibly could have, my mom took me to a dermatologist.

Even with makeup, there was no hiding the bumpy texture m scars left behind.

My dermatologist prescribed me about 5 medications in total. There were about 2 or 3 creams I had to put on at night, one for the day, and an oral antibiotic. At first, they worked and I was so ecstatic! I thought that this was it. That I could see the sun over the horizon, I could see the end to this long fought battle. That was of course until it stopped working.

It was all down my neck too so I was super self conscience of ever tilting my head back- that meant no looking up and no throwing my head back in laughter either.

You see the thing is that bacteria can become antibiotic resistant. They get used to that antibiotic and learn how to become stronger so that it no longer works on them. (I’m not sure if I’m getting that explanation 100% right but based on my research, that’s how I understand it.) That’s exactly what happened to me. After being on my antibiotics for 2 years, my body became resistant to it. It no longer worked and my acne came back stronger than ever. (The pictures you’re seeing above are not even the actual acne ones, those are just the scars. So imagine all those scars, plus oozing puss, redness, and lumps and bumps all along my jaw and neck. It was not a pretty sight.) At this point, my doctor thought to prescribe me with an even stronger antibiotic. I would have to take it two times a day and the side effects for that one would be: yellow teeth, blue skin, dizziness, and fainting, just to name a few. I am not even joking, those were the actual side effects. So I thought to myself, I may end up up looking ugly with all these side effects but at least I’ll be acne free right? That is a huge joke if you could not tell 😂 So even though I was reluctant, I decided to give it a try. I literally took 3 doses of that medication before those side effects started kicking in. I started to feel dizzy while walking to school, going up and down the stairs, and getting onto the bus. It was to the point that I almost fell several times in one day and it felt like it was out of my control, like I wouldn’t be able to stop my body if it began to fall. So after that, I realized I needed to find a different solution. I just couldn’t keep getting on stronger and stronger antibiotics each time they stopped working and I didn’t like the fact that there seemed to be no end in sight when it came to taking all these medications. I knew that couldn’t be healthy, especially long-term. So I began my search for a holistic approach to solving my acne once and for all.

Now this face is as smooth and scar-free as can be. I’m happy to say too that this is without any filter whatsoever. I’m really proud of all my hard work and research finally paying off. It’s been a long road but I’ve stuck with it.

Through my research, I learned just how harmful antibiotics are to our gut and overall health. I learned how your gut’s health really impacts every other function in your body so if it’s not healthy, then you won’t be either. I also learned how you shouldn’t be on antibiotics for no more than 2 weeks. I was on them for 2 years and my doctor wanted to continue with that regime even longer! I don’t know why she would be OK with having me take them for so long. I trusted her though and did exactly as she said with no question (I was only 12 so can you really blame me?) Looking back, I really think that it was my unhealthy diet that started my acne in the first place but I think taking the antibiotics exasperated the problem even more so that it took a whole lot more work to heal myself by the time I had finished the antibiotics after those few years. So once I knew I needed to make a whole lifestyle change to heal my gut and thus cure my acne, I looked into how I could go about doing that.

I believe at that point I had leaky gut syndrome especially with all the abuse my gut had gone through with years of antibiotic use. Many sources said to heal leaky gut, you would have to remove dairy and gluten from your diet since they just caused more inflammation, so I did. After removing the inflammation causing foods, I learned that I needed to also be sure to restore my gut’s healthy microbiome with a bunch of probiotics. So I took supplements, drank kombucha and apple cider vinegar, and just about took every gut loving thing I could while at the same time avoiding anything that caused inflammation like processed foods and keeping sugar to a minimum. Doing these things helped me to finally get rid of my acne. But I was still left with the scars you see above for years later. So how did I finally get rid of those?

I’ll save you a lot of time and money of having to do your own research and I’ll fast forward you to the products that truly worked for me. I finally found the cleanser that worked for me: Cetaphil. It’s specifically designed for people with sensitive skin and my skin adores it! I’ll try different cleansers from time to time just out of curiosity and to see if there’s anything better out there, but right away I’ll just start breaking out. For some reason my skin just really loves Cetaphil so I stick with that. (I’ll link all these products below for you guys so you know just where to get them.)

Next, buying an exfoliating brush for my face (along with a massage head) really helped to smooth out the lumpy texture my skin once had. My face really responded well to a cheap $4 brush I found at Marshall’s. I noticed that every time I would massage my face, my scars would smooth out, to the point that I don’t have them anymore. I would apply a good amount of pressure to my face while I was doing this to bring some blood flow and redness to my skin (but not so much that it hurts). In the beginning, I would massage for 60 seconds everyday. But once I realized I didn’t need it as much, I just did it for less and less time. Massaging my face is what got rid of my bumpy texture for sure. It helped to soften and smooth my skin. It was a huge game changer!

Another important item was Rosehip oil. That helped to get rid of the discoloration on my face. Keep in mind though that with these things, you need to give them time. I would say it took about 3 months to notice a huge difference with the discoloration. So just keep at it. At least you know that it will work, you just need to give it some time and make sure you’re buying a quality oil (not one from the dollar store). I would drench my face in oil every night (I still do, especially to help prevent any fine lines and wrinkles.) But don’t worry if you have oily skin, because I do too and I still put oil on my face. Putting oil on your face does not cause more acne, that’s just a myth and I’m living proof of that. It was actually when I avoided any oil in my face products when I would have tiny breakouts all over. Keeping my skin dry just exasperated my acne. Your skin needs moisture so don’t be scared to give it some. Just try it and see how it works for you.

Another game changer was witch hazel. Witch hazel really helped to reduce the appearance of my pores. They used to be huge! But wiping my face with witch hazel day and night helped to tighten the look of my skin. My mom was even shocked when she saw my face without any makeup and realized just how tight my skin was looking. By using witch hazel, it’s helped my face to look pore less (as if I’m wearing foundation). I also notice that using witch hazel helps to keep breakouts at bay. It’s only when I’m not using it (or have just eaten really bad the day prior) when I’ll actually breakout. So witch hazel is a must. It’s a staple that I still use to this day.

So that is the complete guide to how I finally got rid of my cystic acne and all the scars that came along with it. It literally took me years and years to finally get the smooth, clear skin I have today (10 years to be exact)! I think what took the most time was trial and error; just having to try so many different things to get to the root cause of my problems and see what worked for me. But hopefully with me condensing what I’ve learned during all that time into one blog post, your journey to clear skin will be a lot faster than mine was. I still think you may have to tweak your regime here and there to suite your personal skin type and see what your body responds best to. But I still think you’ll get there a whole lot faster than I did😂 I think really understanding inflammation and how your body responds to it is key.

We need to be healthy internally in order for that glow and radiance to project from our skin. I think it would be in vain to religiously stick to a skincare regime while at the same time continue to eat junk and processed foods. Your body will not be tricked. The true answer to clear skin is eating healthy. You may have to play around with foods to see what agrees with your body and what may be triggering your acne. For example, maybe you can’t do dairy (or at least not a lot of it) whereas maybe your friend can eat all the dairy in the world and still have beautiful skin. Everyone’s body is different so you’ll just have to play detective and see how your body responds to foods. What may be healthy for one person may cause irritable bowels for another. Just play around with it, see what works for you, and maybe use this guide to help you on your journey to clear skin. I honestly thought I was eating healthy at the time and you may feel that way too. But if your skin is so irritated and inflamed, there’s something going on that your body does not like and it’s trying to let you know.

I hope this article is able to help you guys save a whole lot of time. If you liked it, please give it a like down below and let me know what you thought of it. Are you currently trying to clear up your acne or is it something you once struggled with? I’d love to hear from you!

Links:

  1. Cetaphil- https://www.amazon.com/Cetaphil-Gentle-Cleanser-Types-Ounce/dp/B07GC74LL5/ref=sr_1_5?dchild=1&keywords=cetaphil&qid=1590380998&sr=8-5
  2. Rosehip Oil- https://www.amazon.com/Radha-Beauty-Certified-Organic-Rosehip/dp/B00LNOV8JO/ref=sr_1_8?dchild=1&keywords=rosehip+oil&qid=1590381118&sr=8-8
  3. Massage Brush- (the one I originally used had hard bristles for the massage head but this was the closest match I could find on Amazon) https://www.amazon.com/Face-Brush-Cleansing-Exfoliating-Exfoliation/dp/B07TFH7RKZ/ref=sr_1_257?crid=9QMP2MAQ3NE2&dchild=1&keywords=face+brushes+for+cleansing+and+exfoliating&qid=1590381527&sprefix=face+%2Caps%2C287&sr=8-257

Till next time,

Paula

How To Organize Your Pantry (A Cute and Definitive Guide To Finally Getting It Done)

I have been seeing the cutest pictures on Pinterest for organized pantries for years now. It’s always been a goal of mine to get my pantry to look just like that (with my personal touch of course). But every time I opened up my those pantry doors, I felt overwhelmed! There was just so much clutter, so much mess. Where would I start? But being in quarantine as we are, I ran out of things to do. I had pretty much organized everything else so I thought now is the time. Now is the time to (finally) get it done. So I did and it ended up not being as complicated as I thought. I wanted to share with you guys how you can do the same and with no stress at all. It’s simple really.

First, I got some containers. The ones I got from the top row were from Walmart. I bought them months ago but they always have them there so they should be in stock when you check. (I’ll try to link them below for you all.) I just bought a couple, maybe about 7. We also had some large and small mason jars around the house so I used those up too. I filled those up first and as I ran out, I would jot down on paper the foods that were left to be contained. Then I would buy a few more containers. I found the small glass ones at Target for only $6. And then for the bottom row, I ordered those on Amazon for $40 all together.

You’ll want to have the labels with you from the very start so you can label as you go. You wouldn’t want to mix up the baking powder and baking soda as you’re putting them in jars. I ordered my labels from Amazon (again). They have such a wide variety and in so many styles. They even had one that was called Farmhouse which I know a lot of people are liking. I chose the script ones because they felt more girly and just more of my style. For the whole set, I paid $14. I’ll try to link those below too.

When you’re putting your food in their containers, you’ll want to make sure you’re matching them up with a size that’s going to work for you. For example, when picking a jar for the chocolate chips, I made sure to use a smaller one. That’s what works for us because we never need to have a bulk supply of them in our house. But when it came to something like flour, I did use a large jar because I like to do a lot of baking so I want to have a good supply on hand. So just think of what will work for you and your needs. Maybe your family makes a lot of things that require chocolate chips. In that case, you may want to go with a larger jar for them since you’ll need more on hand. It’s all about what works best for you.

Next, we’re going to talk about decorating (one of my favorite topics!) I started off with getting the two wicker baskets with the pink pom poms. They’re actually from the nursery section in Target so they’re really supposed to be used in a baby’s room. But I thought that they were just so cute and just my style (girly and a bit bohemian) so I bought them anyway. I remember I had actually hesitated with these. I thought it would be foolish or ridiculous for me to use a baby item in my pantry. But then I thought, I really like these and who cares if someone thinks it’s weird. Now I am just so happy with the decision I made! I think they look perfect and they give just the look I was going for. So just buy things that are your style and don’t worry what people will think about it. I thought these baskets would be perfect for small snacks and bars that we could store in there, so that’ what I use them for.

Next, I used the wood like contact paper to give our shelves a bit of a makeover. We just moved into this home 6 months ago, but the shelves had some stains and were peeling in some areas. So I thought a simple way to liven them up was to use some contact paper. This one I also got from Amazon. It was $11 a roll and I ended up ordering 2 more of these. In the picture above, I have just one shelf lined but I plan on doing all of them. The contact paper ended up looking so nice in person! It looked really natural and just like a real block of wood. My husband who was skeptical about how good contact paper would look was actually really impressed with how it came out too. I will say, some of the sides rolled up a bit so I just bought some invisible tape to keep those down. I haven’t put it on yet, but I imagine that it wouldn’t really be visible.

Next are the stickers! I ordered some water bottle stickers that people will often stick on there. I’m hoping that will make them more resistant and last longer. They have so many cute ones to choose from and again in all different styles so you’re sure to find ones you like. These were from Amazon and were only $5. And again with these, I hesitated for a moment thinking it might be weird to have stickers on our containers, what would people think or say? But I had to remind myself, this is my style. I think they’re cute and it makes me happy every time I see them so I knew I just had to do it. And again, I am so glad I did! I love the way they came out and now every time I open up my pantry, I can’t help but have a huge smile on my face because it just all brings me so much joy! And that’s what it’s all about.

So there you have it, my simple guide to finally tackling your pantry and getting it organized. I’ve been married for going on 6 years now and this is the first time I’ve ever organized our pantry so that should show you how daunting I thought it was going to be. I had put it off for so many years! In reality it only took me a few days and I would just dedicate maybe about 2 hours on each of those days to work on it. It ended up being a lot of fun too and now I am so satisfied with the finished product. It brings me joy each and every time I go into our pantry and it’s just another way I’m able to make our house into a home. I hope you guys found this to be an informative read and I hope it was able to help you too. Let me know in the comments below how it works out for you. I’d love to see any pictures of your transformed pantries too. 😊

Till next time, I hope you guys have abeautiful day,

Paula 🌼

Links:

  1. Amazon Food Containers- https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07C79SGBC/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o08_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
  2. Wood Contact Paper https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07FSBTGKL/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o06_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
  3. Stickers- https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B083BN1KXF/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
  4. Target Glass Jars- https://www.target.com/p/anchor-hocking-glass-cracker-jar-2qt/-/A-47746956
  5. Tiny Mason Jars (I used for candy)- https://www.target.com/p/ball-8oz-12pk-glass-regular-mouth-mason-jar-with-lid-and-band/-/A-14898081
  6. Pom Pom Baskets- https://www.target.com/p/small-paper-rope-decorative-basket-pink-cloud-island-8482/-/A-76167827
  7. Walmart Storage Containers (these weren’t the exact ones but they were the closest I could find on their website)- https://www.walmart.com/ip/DRAGONN-10-Piece-Airtight-Food-Storage-Containers-Kitchen-Storage-Set-DN-KW-FS10/107536945