*Disclaimer: I just want to say that this article is not meant to offend or judge anyone else’s decision of whether they decide to stay home or not. This is not about me telling you that you’re doing anything wrong. This is simply me expressing why I love being a stay at home mom/wife and just what it means to me. I hope no one will feel hurt or like I’m attacking them because that is not my intention at all. With all that being said, I hope you enjoy the article.*
Now, more than ever, homemakers are getting a bad rap. They are often looked down upon and viewed as lazy and someone who doesn’t have a “real” job. They are thought of as being oppressed, sad, bored, and lonely. But let me tell you why that is the furthest thing from the truth.
What It Means To Be A Homemaker
First and foremost, what do I mean when I say “homemaker”? Well there are a few different names that we may go by including housewife and stay at home mom. Generally it’s someone who takes care of the home (whether they have kids or not) while their husband has a secular job. So now that we’ve got that cleared away, let’s get into it.
Often times people believe that all homemakers do is clean the house and slap together a quick meal and with the rest of the day we just lounge around in our yoga pants eating bon bons. But there is really so much more to it and to be honest, I don’t even know what bon bons are. So there’s that.
The Power Of A Homemaker
As a homemaker, our main focus is to make the living space for our family as cozy, warm, and inviting as possible. That simply cannot be done with cleaning alone. Homemaking involves decorating to make the place feel warm. We organize so that our family doesn’t constantly feel frazzled, stressed, and overall just a mess. We make sure clothes are clean and ready for our family so that again, there will be less stress in the day to day life of our family. Being a homemaker is all about helping your family life to flow. You make things easier on them. It also helps everyone know what their role is in the marriage: the husband takes care of the finances and makes sure his family is cared for in that way while the wife takes care of things inside the home (including the cooking and cleaning). Neither of you have to worry about having to clean the house after already working an 8 hour work day. Since homemaking is your job, you can get it done during the day and in the evening when your husband comes home to a nice, peaceful atmosphere, you can both relax and enjoy your time together as a family.
I truly believe that a homemaker has the power to create peace in the home. You no longer are stuck in a constant hustle and bustle rut of constantly going. You no longer have to worry about working a 9-5 job and taking care of the kids and the home and cooking a meal and going to bed just to run the same hectic race the next day. But you and your husband are actually able to help take a load off of each other. My husband doesn’t have to worry about what meal he’s going to have to cook after a long stressful day. He doesn’t have to worry about whether or not his work clothes will be clean and ready for the day. And since we have a daughter, he doesn’t have to worry about who’s watching her and whether they’ll be a good caretaker or not. Since my husband takes care of the finances, I don’t have to even think about it. He’ll keep me in the loop of how everything is looking but for the most part, he takes care of all that.
Am I Really Oppressed?
Being a homemaker has been so stigmatized that now no one wants to do it. Back in about the 1950s era, the norm was to be a housewife and most women weren’t given an option of doing anything else. So now that we’ve come out of that and a majority of women now work outside the home, a lot of times people are just astonished that you would willingly choose to stay home. They view it as oppression, as if you’re not reaching your full potential, and like you’re actually dumb for wanting to make such a decision. But I can’t even begin to tell you how being a housewife actually is one of the least oppressive thing you can do!
For starters, I get to set my own hours. I can have a slow morning if I want. I can even choose to not work at all if I’m feeling sick. I can take mini trips and choose to drive to any local city and spend the day there. I can hangout with friends who also stay home. I could choose to stay in my pj’s if I wanted to. I could choose to start a creative career from home (ex: becoming a YouTuber, starting an Etsy shop of homemade goods, selling my clothes on an online thrift store, becoming a blogger, and so much more!) I can watch TV during the day and still get my work done. I can choose to explore some hobbies. I can stay home with my pets. I can take classes. I can choose to drive to the beach and spend the day there. And the list just goes on and on. How many jobs do you know of that would actually let you do even just a few of those things? My guess is probably none. So no, I am not oppressed, not even in the slightest. I’m not kept home in the dark all day and told that I can’t leave unless every little thing in the house is clean enough that you could eat off of it. And I’m also not bored out of mind and just depressed all day because of loneliness. I actually keep very busy, especially because I have my 2 year old daughter to care for. I honestly feel so fulfilled and happy. There’s absolutely nothing I’d rather be doing.
I hope by my little article that you were able to see a different side to being a homemaker than you did before. I’m not here to try and change your mind, but rather to give you some insight. It really is a job that a lot of us actually enjoy and are happy to do. Let me know what you thought of this article and if your opinion differs from mine, don’t shy away from expressing it. It’s nice when we can have an open dialogue and just hear what each other has to say. So on that note: I’d love to hear from you. Please give this article a like if you did enjoy it and until next time…bye! 🙂