House Hunting Is So Stressful!

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For those of you who have been following the blog, you know that we were given two months to move out of our apartment. Those two months have now turned into three weeks and we still haven’t found anything yet! It is so stressful and we are definitely feeling the pressure with the little bit of time that we have left. I’m stressed out even now just thinking about it. The whole house hunting process has been so exhausting too.

There were so many times where we’ve seen houses and became so hopeful, thinking that this one was it. But there would soon be something that came up that just crushed that dream. It’s usually either not what we were expecting or the landlord decides to go with someone else. But it’s just so exhausting going through the whole process of calling, scheduling, touring, getting hopeful, filling out applications (that are about $30 each time), then being let down, and having to do the whole process all over again.

Just today we toured another home. The pictures online were so beautiful! It was a newly remodeled home, with lots of natural lighting (a huge plus for me), and a big backyard. But when we saw it in person today, it wasn’t nearly as impressive. It was so much smaller than the pictures showed. The lawn was completely dead and there wereย  random blue stains in the carpet. Based of the pictures online, we were really hoping this place was the one. It looked so beautiful and for a reasonable price too. I talked to the landlord about the stains and some other concerns we had and it seems like he’s willing to fix those things so we’ll see whether or not we end up taking it. I still think it looks nice, it’s just the size that would be the main drawback for me. But I feel like I can still make it work. Of course it’s not the ideal size but it’s still doable.

What I hate the most is the amount of money we are being asked to pay for these homes because they are just so not worth it! It makes me so mad because I know that if we lived anywhere else, our money would be able to stretch so much farther and get us a really nice place. But here in California, everything is just so expensive. I really would move out of state but we have family here. They’re pretty much the only reason why we stay.

My husband and I are just so frustrated with the whole process. After coming home from that disappointing tour, we looked online to find some other potential homes. It was so discouraging! The homes that were available didn’t look at all as I would’ve liked them too. Even the more expensive ones were not very impressive. But trust me when I say, it’s not me, it’s just the area we live. It’s not at all that I’m being picky or am looking for anything fancy…because I’m not.

The main things I’m asking for is: hardwood floors, lots of natural lighting, backyard with grass, good neighborhood, no orange wood (please! I hate it) and just overall nothing too hideous if possible. And when I say hideous I mean anything like: pink tiling in the bathroom, crooked kitchen cabinets, appliances of all different colors all in the same room, wood paneled walls (from the 70s), yellow and green flower wallpapered kitchen, or a house with random light fixtures in each and every room. All these things I have seen in our house search! Do you see what I’m dealing with?! I’m not asking for anything fancy.

Both my husband and I come from humble beginnings. I grew up in affordable housing my whole life and didn’t even realize how little we had till I moved out and then visited home again. When my husband and I first got married, we lived in a little studio apartment. Soon after we moved into the one bedroom apartment that we’re currently staying in. All these places I never had a problem with. I didn’t even mind living in a one bedroom apartment even when we had our baby. She just stayed in our room when it came time to sleep. It was never a problem living in this apartment till now, now that my baby is not so little anymore and is now a toddler. Now it’s getting really cramped here with all of us. And I want my little girl to have space where she can roam around free, a backyard for her to run and play. I don’t think I ask for too much at all when it comes to our new home. That’s why it’s so frustrating that we’re not finding anything we like. I almost feel like I’m just going to have to settle for one of the ugly places. (And for those of you wondering, I wouldn’t mind moving into an ugly home too much if it was ours to keep and do all the renovations to. But since we’re looking to rent this next place, I won’t be able to renovate. It’ll pretty much be as is.)

So that is how our house hunting is going so far. I know eventually if we don’t find something we really like, we’re just going to have to settle because we only have three weeks left and I’m not trying to be homeless. I’m sorry this post isn’t a positive one. I try to write uplifting and inspiring articles for you guys. So I’m sorry this one’s such a downer. But that’ just how life is. You have your good days and your bad days. At least those bad days help us to appreciate the good times so much more. Hey, at least that was a positive spin to things ๐Ÿ™‚ And hopefully the next time I write you, it’ll be about us finding/moving into our new place.

Till next time,

Paula ๐Ÿ™‚

 

How To Get Over Intimidation At The Gym (Gymidation)

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Intimidation at the gym: it is something that is so common now that there is actually a word for it- “Gymidation”. You see all these really fit and attractive people working out around you at the gym, they go in so focused and determined, they know exactly what they’re doing. While you feel frumpy and a mess and wander around, not really knowing where to get started. Like most people, I felt that way too. But let me tell you, you don’t have to feel like that. It does get better. If you feel gymidation whenever you try to workout, then read on to see how to let go of that intimidation and become confident in the gym.

I’ve been going to the gym regularly for 3 months now and at first I definitely felt intimidated. I thought that maybe people were judging me and thinking to themselves that I was doing everything wrong. I felt like I looked ridiculous at times with what I wore or with my gut all obvious and clear for people to see. I felt like a mess. But I accepted that. I knew that I looked like a hot mess. That’s exactly why I was going to the gym in the first place, to improve my appearance and to work on the things that I was self conscious about.

At times I did feel embarrassed but I just pressed on. And ultimately, that is my advice for you too. Keep going to the gym and keep working out hard even if you feel like a mess because you know what? That’s the only way you’ll see any results. That way of thinking is exactly what helped me to continue. I knew that I might look silly right now but in time I’d soon feel better about myself.

Change is not going to happen by you staying in your comfort zone, curled up at home under a blanket, eating ice cream (which is one of my favorite things to do). You need to push pass your little bubble of comfort because doing the same thing is only going to give you the same results. But if you’re serious about making a change and seeing a difference, then you’re going to have to try some new things (like going to the gym). And it doesn’t have to be hard at all. You don’t have to hit the gym 6+ times a week. I only go to the gym 3 times a week and I have seen amazing results just in the short time that I’ve been going.

Don’t worry about other people at the gym. Focus on you, your workout, and why you’re there in the first place. Keep clear in mind your goals and where you’d like to see yourself a few months down the road. It’s only by sticking to the process that you’ll see the results you want. Don’t cheat yourself from reaching your goals just because you’re scared of what other people may be thinking. Whether they are thinking negatively about you or not doesn’t really matter. They can think what they want but it won’t affect you. And if they are, then just let that be added motivation to prove to them, and to yourself, that you can do anything you set your mind to.

I really hope this article has helped you guys. For so long, I wasn’t reaching the goals that I wanted for myself because of fear. I don’t want you guys to be like that though. I am so happy that I am finally taking control of my life and putting in the action that’s necessary to reach my goals. I don’t want fear to hold you back from being the happiest person that you can be. Now that I’m going to the gym regularly, I feel so good both inside and out. Working out is so therapeutic for me, especially if I’ve had a rough day. And those endorphins make you feel so good and bursting with energy for hours afterwards. Plus, I’m gaining confidence with the more I sculpt my body. I want you guys to be able to enjoy those benefits too.

So may you be fearless on your fitness endeavors and keep pressing forward ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Goals For July 2018

background-image-ballpen-black-843227.jpgI think it’s so important that we are always improving and growing in our lives. That’s why I like to constantly set new goals for myself so I always have something to work towards and become better in. With this new month upon us, I thought it’d be a perfect opportunity to set some new goals. I wanted to share them so they can hopefully help inspire you all with your own goals. So, here they are:

  1. Stay on track with my weight loss journey. I won’t lie, at times it has been a struggle to continue. Even though I have found a way that works for me and is relatively easy, sometimes I just don’t want to have to track my calories or try to stay within a certain calorie budget. I sometimes just want to be able to eat whatever I want and not have to think about it. But I know that I need to continue. I’ve been so happy with my results already and I just know that I won’t be satisfied if I just stop right now. If I did, I would just continue to have the same insecurities that I’ve had for so long. So I want to push on and stick with the process. I’m almost done so it’ll just be a little while longer.
  2. Find a new place to live. As you guys may know by now, we are moving. We’ve been looking for a new home for 2 weeks now and it has been exhausting! Between constantly searching for homes, making calls, taking tours, getting my hopes up, and then being let down, I am tired of the whole process. So I’d like to find a home and start moving into it this month too, if possible.
  3. If we do move this month, then I’d like to get our home simplified and organized. I’m kind of tired of having our place so disordered. Honestly, when the house is a mess it makes me feel very overwhelmed and stressed. I don’t want to feel like that. So I want to get rid of a whole lot of things and simplify our house even more. I’ll be sharing with you guys how I’m organizing our place too along with some before and after photos, so stay tuned for that. ๐Ÿ™‚

Those are my main goals so far for this month. I know it’s not as much as last time but every month will be different like that. I hope you guys enjoyed this post. Give this a “like” if you enjoy these kind of articles so I’ll know to write more like them. Please share any goals you’re working on at the moment. I would love to get some new ideas for my own personal growth ๐Ÿ™‚

Weight Loss Journey Update: How I’m Eating To Lose The Weight

*Disclaimer: I just want to start off by saying that I am not a doctor. This is just my personal experience and what has worked for me. The information I share with you is what I have learned through trial and error and my own research. But of course, if you have any questions about any of this, please make sure to discuss it with your doctor first.*

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If you’ve been reading my blog for a while now, then you’ll know that in May of 2018 I decided to start my fitness journey. I wanted to update you guys because I know articles like this can help encourage and motivate others who are on a similar path.

Today is now July 1st of 2018 and I am happy to say that I am still on my fitness journey. This would be my 7th week of working out at the gym and eating portion controlled meals. I am so proud of myself though for really sticking with it this time. It’s funny how you can have so many times that you tell yourself, “This is it. I’m finally going to lose the weight!” But then you just end up quitting. Honestly you guys, I had been saying for about 6 years now that I was going to lose this weight. I would try so many different things that ended up just not working or I didn’t like it so I’d quit. So I find it so crazy that this time around I am sticking with it. I am serious about losing the weight this time and there is nothing that’s going to stop me. I am just that motivated and determined. But I feel like the reason why this way of losing weight is working is because it’s not hard to me or dreadful at all. I don’t feel starved or deprived or anything like that.

For the first month of my weight loss journey I just focused on portion control and it worked, but only during that time. After a while I noticed that my weight had plateaued. I tried to wait it out to see if it’d work itself out. But after 3 weeks of being the same weight, I decided I’d try calorie counting. I just didn’t want to be wasting my time doing something that was no longer working. And I felt like 3 weeks was long enough to wait. So I went online and tried a few different calorie calculators to see how much I should be eating for weight loss. I tried about 3 or 4 different ones. They all tend to give you a different number so I just took the average of all of them. I ended up with about 1600 calories. I think that is the perfect number for me. I still nurse my toddler 4 times a day, I tend to be moderately active, and I workout at the gym 3-4 times a week for an hour each session. I also have a good amount of muscle mass on my body. So all that needs to be taken into consideration when determining your calories. One calculator tried saying that I needed to eat just 1300 calories which I already felt was very low for me but I thought I’d give it a try. When I did, I was very hungry all day, felt light headed, exhausted, and irritable. So I knew that I needed to eat more. The crazy thing too is that before I thought all those symptoms were normal to feel when losing weight. But let me tell you, they’re not! That was a big reason why I never stuck to losing weight before: because I didn’t want to feel like that for months while trying to lose weight. So if you find yourself feeling miserable at all when trying to eat less for weight loss, try increasing your calories by a few hundred, Most likely you’re body just needs to eat a little more.

A really simple tool I’m using for calorie counting that I’m sure you heard of is the “My Fitness Pal” app. It’s free to download and so easy to use. I’m not getting paid or endorsed by them at all. This has just really helped me and I think it”ll help you as well. I have always hated counting calories. HATED! But this app is seriously so quick and easy to use. It even has a bar code scanner so if you have the package of the food you’re eating, you can just scan the bar code with your phone and it’ll upload all the nutrition information for you and then you’re done. If you tend to eat the same meals (like I do. I eat the same breakfast everyday.) you can log all the ingredients for it on your phone and then save it on the app. So next time when you’re eating that meal again, you don’t have to log each and every little thing again, you can just click on the saved “meals” button and it”ll have it all ready to go for you right there. If you’re going to a restaurant, it’ll already have the menu and calories on your phone so you can literally just click on what you ordered instead of having to log it all in yourself. I honestly love this app (especially the bar code feature ๐Ÿ™‚ ). So even if you’re someone like me who has tried tracking your calories before but hated it, try giving this app a try. You might just like it ๐Ÿ™‚

I also don’t restrict myself when it comes to cravings. If I really want to eat something, I’ll let myself have it. I just make sure to keep it within my calorie intake for the day. I feel it’s best to eat what you want in moderation now, than to restrict and deprive yourself for so long until you can’t take it anymore and you end up binge eating hard. Also, eating in a balanced way like this will help you in sticking to your weight loss plan long term since there are no rules as to what you can and cannot have.

And I just wanted to touch on something that was very hard for me losing weight this time around, since I know other people may be experiencing the same thing. I have lost 40 pounds in the past when I was at my heaviest but back then I was able to drop the weight so quickly. There were times where I’d lose 7 pounds in a week and it wasn’t even like I was trying to. But now I lose 1 pound a week. It was very frustrating at first to see how slow the weight was coming off. Especially since now is the time that I’m working my hardest at the gym and eating less, and yet I’m losing the weight much slower than when I was heavier and wasn’t trying nearly as hard. I had to remind myself though of how my body is going to try and hang onto these vanity pounds so it is going to take longer. I also reminded myself that progress is progress. That has basically been my motto throughout this fitness journey. Even if you are losing the weight so incredibly slow, just be happy that you’re going in the right direction. You’re still losing weight, even if it is slow, and that’s bringing you one step closer to your goal. It’s that mindset that has helped me to keep going even when I become impatient and wish that I could drop the weight faster. Before I would be so upset that my progress was so slow that I would just quit. But how is that helping the situation? ย At least before you were making progress. If you quit, then you’re not getting any closer to your goals.

To sum this all up for you: track your calories (but don’t go tooย low), eat what you’d like but just in moderation, and keep in mind that progress is progress. I hope this article has helped you guys. I just really don’t want you to waste your time like me doing all the wrong things when you can just get it right the first time and finally reach your goals. Please give this a “like” if you enjoyed it and comment down below a weight loss hack that has worked for you. We could all use each other’s help.